As part of this post, I thought I’d do some research about the origins of Valentine’s day … but then I got bored and gave up! What does it matter anyway? Valentine’s day as we now know it, is all about; roses, chocolates, cards and romantic meals.
It’s the one day of the year that those of us who have persevered through the ups and downs of a relationship, can feel that it’s all been worthwhile… because there’s a possibility we might receive a card or roses or chocolates or even a free meal! If our love is like the stuff you see in movies, we might even get one or more of these gifts or all of them together! Now that’s a love that can’t be tested!
Today is also the one day of the year that it’s assumed by most that anyone who is single will feel like shit and long to be in a relationship!
Whatever the reality of these situations are, is unimportant. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, is irrelevant. Because, today is ALL about love – and showing the person you love the most in the world, just how much they mean to you… and single or not, we all have that person in our lives! Because that person is YOU!
If today you secretly hope that your loved one will go to great lengths to show you how much they love you. Or you wish you had that special someone in your life. Ask yourself instead, what are you doing to show yourself how much you love you?
Take five minutes out and grab a piece of paper and jot down:
- 5 of your accomplishments over the last year, however small.
- 5 things you’ve done to help others over the years.
- 5 compliments you’d give yourself.
- 5 parts of your personality that you think are pretty damn cool.
- 5 things you like about your body.
Take time to reflect upon your achievements and congratulate yourself on the person you’ve become and the person you’re trying to be. Appreciate who you are and how far you’ve come, through all of the tough times.
Once you’ve done this, do one thing to pamper yourself today. Dress up! Go further and treat yourself, however small that treat might be – be it a slice of cake, a new top or a new book you’ve been thinking about buying. Whatever you decide to do, do one thing today to show yourself how important you are.
And remember, a lot of what you see is an illusion. Yes, there are happy couples out there but that happiness doesn’t come without work. It takes hard work to make a relationship last, to stick it through the tough times, day in and day out. Just like it’s hard to be single – while everyone around you seems to be coupled up. It’s just a different kind of hard.
The important thing is not if you have someone to love or that someone loves you. The important thing is how much you love yourself. As the stylish Miss Carrie Bradshaw once said, “don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first…”.
If you’ve never been in love with yourself before, today is the perfect day to start.
Happy Valentine’s day to me… and of course, to you too. xx