How to turn your pain into power

The truth is, everyone has a sad story. The chances are that somewhere along your journey of life, something not so great happened to you. You may or may not even know it, but you’ve carried the pain of that sadness around with you for your whole entire life. Like an invisible anchor, it’s been pulling you down, holding you back in some way. Undetected, its been dictating the choices you make and the person you’ve become.

 

 

Some people have suffered inconceivable tragic events. Their sad stories are obvious and it’s easy to understand why they may engage in self-sabotaging or destructive behaviours. For the majority of us however, the sadness is so subtle, so buried beneath the surface that we don’t even realise that it’s there. That it’s silently weaving its destruction. But the clues are obvious, if we’re willing to acknowledge them. They lie in the overeating, the lack of self-control, the insecurities, the low self-esteem, the addictions, the anxieties… and the pain.

 So ingrained into our daily lives are these behaviours that we view them as completely normal. We tell ourselves that they are just a part of who we are. Yet, the overeating leads to obesity and a variety of health complications. The insecurities lead to jealousy or the inability to have a healthy, loving relationship. The consequences of addictions such as smoking and drinking are well known… yet every day, we continue to kill ourselves just that little bit more. Unaware of the reasons why. On autopilot, we just do what we need to, to get through the day.

These habits and behaviours that frustrate you, the ones that you wish you could overcome … they all started somewhere. There’s a reason you started smoking and there’s a reason you can’t quit, no matter how hard you try. There’s a reason why the thought of speaking in public makes you break out in a cold panicked sweat and there’s a reason why you over eat. There’s a reason why despite everyone telling you how beautiful and amazing you are, you just can’t see it.

These subtle but destructive behaviours can stem from anywhere. And because they are so subtle, it’s difficult to make the connection on a conscious level. It could be the harsh words of an overly strict parent, the constant mocking by a sibling or the fear of losing a loved one. Childhood events such as these, which can seem minor through the passage of time can impact your life in ways you cannot even begin to imagine. Yet, every day – the effects are there, showing up in every day habits… in the drag of a cigarette or the secret night time cookie binge.

 

We hear stories from clients of all different backgrounds who are struggling with anxiety, eating disorders, phobias or addictions. We listen to clients trying to rationalise these behaviours and trying to figure out why they just can’t stop doing what they’re doing. We also hear about the impact of these habits and how destructive they really are.

Our aim isn’t to analyse these behaviours but instead to find the root cause through Hypnosis. Once we know what the initial trigger is, the healing can really begin. The best part is, once a client walks out of our office (or ends the Skype call) they don’t have to do an ounce of work to change. The shift has already occurred and will continue to grow. We as therapists have the unique privilege of witnessing this transformation right before our eyes.

Real life case studies:

1. Kat

Last year we met Kat who in her view grew up in the perfect family and was always supported and encouraged in everything she did. Kat couldn’t understand why with all this support and a loving family, she was so insecure about singing in public despite having a beautiful voice. During our session, Kat discovered that whilst she was overly encouraged in all her artistic endeavours, her singing was never acknowledged by her family let alone praised. Without her being aware of it on a conscious level, this lack of acknowledgement had led to years of insecurities as an adult. We were able to assist Kat in healing those experiences through Hypnosis and empowering her to sing in public with confidence.

Kat says:

“Both times I saw Neeta, she took me back to places where I was surprised to find myself, and helped me make missing links to what was happening in my current life (due to past key moments that somehow shifted my beliefs). I didn’t even realise those things were affecting me. Knowing this allowed me to take action and allow some healing to take place.”

2. Nane

Then there was Nane who came to us as Pro Bono client. Nane had spent thousands of pounds calling Psychic hotlines, searching for answers as to why her life wasn’t where she wanted it to be.  Because of this, she had to sell her home and was struggling financially. We were able to help Nane overcome the unresolved pain she experienced as a child. She discovered that on a subconscious level, she had been carrying around the pain, sadness and fear she felt as a child of not being heard and not being stood up for. This resulted in many self-sabotaging behaviours that Nane was still engaging in well into her late 40s!

Following two lengthy sessions via Skype, Nane reported that she had made more progress with 2 sessions of Hypnotherapy than she had in 20 years of conventional therapy. She had a renewed love of life and had repaired broken relationships with family. She was dating again; the sale of her house had gone through and for the first time in a long time she was feeling hopeful about the future. In fact, her third session with us was just to tell us that she didn’t actually have any issues to discuss!

3. Jennani

Jennani contacted us during the breakdown of her 10-year marriage. Her husband was leaving her weeks after the birth of their first child. Jennani was desperate to save her marriage despite it not being a happy one. After just one session, Jennani says:

“Hypnotherapy made me able to see my underlying problem that I had for years but never thought about it. I cared way too much about others but I was scared to show my emotions to them. I also forgot to love me first. Now I realize that I have to love myself first in order to be able to give love to others. It has changed my attitude towards life and people I love!”

4. Ozlem

Ozlem booked a session with us after suffering with intense and unbearable period pain. For twenty years, Ozlem had come to believe that this pain was normal and accepted that it would be part of her life forever.

Ozlem came to see us because she was now at the stage where two weeks out of every month was consumed by pain. Ozlem was unable to leave the house and found herself in a state of constant pain and agitation resulting in social isolation.

During our first session with Ozlem we were able to determine that her physical pain stemmed from the childhood burden of having to be the carer of a younger sibling while her parents worked. On a conscious level, Ozlem was completely unaware how much this responsibility had affected her physically.

We helped Ozlem face these emotions, explore them and then release them… ultimately, resolving the pain associated with them.

 Ozlem says:

“I had terrible period pain and it was affecting all of my life. The pain was too strong and I was feeling tired, moody and lazy.

But now, this period term I didn’t feel the pain too much . On my third day l did yoga for 1 hour 15 mins and I did a run for 30 mins… that’s what l want …  I am going to gym 2-3 hours then meeting with my friends , living the day fully and don’t get tired easily like l used to be.

That was an amazing experience, it’s working on me very well.. I am reaching my goals..”

 If you’re ready to turn your pain into power, contact us for a free consultation at info@regencyhypnotherapy.com or call FREE on 0800 246 1017.

Appointments available via Skype, WhatsApp video or at 1 Harley Street, London.

visit http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com for more information.

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Day 4 – Unleash your Inner Money Babe Challenge

I’ve done these lists before so no great revelations today although this list is rather more extensive so a little more insightful.

Task:  Write a list of 25 things you’re grateful for

I usually only write 3-5 things I’m grateful for in one sitting because… well, quite frankly I run out of things to be grateful for! Stretching my gratitude list to 25 items was indeed – a stretch but I have things on my list that I’d completely forgotten about or taken for granted. I’d highly recommend this task:

Bonus:

Over the last 24 hours I’ve been called an ‘inspiration’ three times – yesterday by a client, then by my husband for working my butt off at home and today by a work friend. Funny thing is, I never thought anyone out of the 7 billion people on the planet would ever use that word to describe me.

The biggest bonus today however is that on my way home from work my husband called me and told me he’s been offered a job and starts on Monday!!! WOO HOO! Now this may not be a big deal to some but he’s been out of work for 4 months… so this is massive news for us. It’s a 6 week contract but that’s all good cos good things are coming our way.!

 

Day 3 – Unleash Your Inner Money Babe challenge

Thank god Day 3 is easier than Day 2!!!!

Task: To list the 5 feelings you’ll have when you manifest what you want at the end of the challenge.

Mine are simple:

  • Excited
  • Powerful
  • Strong
  • High – as in buzzing!
  • Unstoppable (I’ve worked out how to make my mind work for me)

I feel really good today and I don’t know if it’s a coincidence or not but this is literally the most productive I have been in years. I feel the high vibes from the ‘manifestation babes’ Facebook group and the level of love in that group is leaving me buzzing.

On a side note, I’m seeing synchronization everywhere!!!  14:14 15.55, 11:11, 16:16 – I’m taking this as a sign from the universe that I’m on the right track.  WOOOO HOOOO!!!!!!!!!

Day 2 – Unleash Your Inner Money Babe challenge

The hardest challenge had to be on Day 2. WTF?

It seemed simple enough to begin with. I mean, how hard can it be to do this.

Task 1: Write a list of people and situations you want to forgive

Task 2: Go through each scenario, get the feeling of it and then say out loud: I forgive you. I’m sorry. Thank you. I love you.

The first day I tried this, I felt very agitated and only got as far as the second point on my list. “I’m sorry? For what? You were the arsehole!” Nah, not me. I aint sorry for shit… and don’t even get me started on the “I love you”  part– no I bloody don’t. Not in this life time or any other!

Frustrated. I left my book and notes alone for a day (I’m a little behind on the challenge now but sticking with it. Yes, I know it’s only day 2!!!) and came back to it with fresh eyes. This time I read the explanatory notes properly (eager beaver me just wanted to get started).

If you’re going to take up this challenge – this part is crucial! Read the chapters properly.

Having fully understood the meanings of:

I forgive you

I’m sorry

Thank you

I love you

I was able to let go of the situations I had listed. I can honestly say I feel a bit lighter. Why? Because doing this exercise made me realise that the person I’ve held the biggest grudge against is me, myself and I. For some reason, on a subconscious level I’ve been blaming myself all these years for the shitty way people have treated me.

I’ve grown a lot since those days but I had no idea that deep down, I was still holding onto some of that stuff… it feels good to finally have it out in the open!

With my new found feelings of freedom, I decided that I’m going to up my manifestation to 4K. I’m already spending it in my mind….

If you haven’t already, join me on the challenge… there’s a pot of money waiting for us at the end!

Unleash your inner Money Babe: 21 day challenge

Ok people, it’s time to get serious about this changing my life stuff!

I’ve been lurking on Kathrin Zenkina’s ‘manifestation babe’ Facebook group for a few days and an amazed at how many women are manifesting amazing things! I bit the bullet yesterday and decided to order her book “Unleash your inner Money Babe – uplevel your money mindset and manifest $1000 in 21 days”.

The book arrived today and has quite a few daily exercises to do but the results are there, my Facebook newsfeed is blowing up with stories of how much women are manifesting!!! (obviously this will work for guys too but I think Kathrin is focussing on ‘Babes’ for now!).

So, it’s time to start walking the talk and get going with this challenge! I’m posting here so I can hold myself accountable. Also, in case any of you want to join me?

Before we begin, lets get a few things out of the way.

As with any kind of manifesting/ law of attraction activity the secret lies in believing it’s going to happen. You have to be excited to start the challenge and you have to believe it’s going to work. From what I’ve read about other people’s experiences, money is flowing to them from the most unlikely of sources… so lets not focus on the ‘how’, just believe that good things are on the way.

I’ve personally decided to manifest £3000 because I think this is something I could actually get excited about and money I could put to really good use. My stiff inflexible body will be doing cartwheels WHEN I receive my £3K with 21 days!

Ok, so let’s get going. I’m not going to rewrite Kathrin’s book here but I will just outline the main activities but more so, document my journey and challenges with them.

Here goes:

Day 1:

Clear out the crap

a. Today, we need to clear out our wallet or the place where we deal with bills and basically make a nice home (wallet) for our money to live. Also, we need to treat money good so no more scrunched up notes.
b. Burn some sage to clear out the negative energy from the house (waiting for my sage to arrive tomorrow)

The book has a number of questions you need to answer as part of this activity based on how you feel clearing all of this stuff away etc. I’ll be answering those and reporting back tomorrow with any developments and the next task.

Wish me luck.. actually, wish me £3K ; )

 

 

Why minding your own business is good for your health

We’ve recently come across the work of author Byron Katie who shares this remarkably simple yet effective tool on how to be free of anxiety and tension. It’s so simple you’ll be wondering why you haven’t been doing it all this time!

 We’ll leave Katie (as everyone calls her) to explain it in her own words:

 “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe:

 1. Mine

2. Yours

3. Gods  (anything that’s out of my control, your control and everyone else’s control – that’s God’s business).

Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself” – I am in your business.

When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die – I am in God’s business.

 If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.

 If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own. I am separate from myself,  wondering why my life doesn’t work.

To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you.

If you understand the three kinds of business enough to stay in your own business, it could free your life in a way that you can’t even imagine.

 The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re mentally in, and you may burst out laughing! The question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve mentally been living in other people’s.

For more information about Byron Katie’s  visit  ‘the Work’ visit http://thework.com/en/do-work#jyn