11 new Law of Attraction tools to manifesting a better life (part 1)

There’s so much information out there on the law of attraction yet thousands of people still struggle with manifesting their true desires.

If you’re interested in the law of attraction, you’ve probably come across the work of Esther Hicks and the teachings of Abraham Hicks. Whatever you think about Esther (it took me a while to get my head around it), she seems to talk a lot of sense.

I’ve recently finished the bestselling book Ask and it is Given; learning to manifest the law of attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks and thought I’d share some of the insights I learned to help you (and me) on our manifesting journey!

The quotes below are some of the most useful I found in the book:

  1. In the same way that sculptors mold clay into the creation that pleases them, you create by molding Energy. You mold it through your power of focus – by thinking about things, remembering things, and imaging things. You focus the Energy when you speak, when you write, when you listen, when you are silent, when you remember, and when you imagine – you focus it through the projection of thought.
    I have a tendency to think and talk about the past A LOT! It’s no wonder I never feel like I’m moving forward!
  2. As long as you are more aware of what you do not want regarding this situation, what you do want cannot come to you. In other other words, if you are predominately thinking about your beautiful new car, then it is steadily making it’s way to you, but if you are predominately thinking about your undependable current car, your dependable new car cannot move toward you.
    Yep, guilty again! I have to admit I spend a lot of time thinking about what I don’t want to happen in life. I don’t want people to let me down, I don’t want to get ill, I don’t want bad things to happen etc! This is a major lesson for me!
  3. If you are thinking about something that you have been wanting for a long time and you are imagining that it is happening, then your emotion would be one of anticipation or eagerness.This is important to remember. I have done a few manifestation experiments in the past and the benefit of doing an ‘experiment’ is that you’re eager to see the outcome of what you’ve manifested. I forget this in my daily life and manifestation practices and after a few days, I start noticing everything that hasn’t turned up!
  4. Your mood is always showing you a good representation of what you are inviting into your experience. Your mood, or your general feeling about something, is a clear indication of your practiced vibration.I grew up being called ‘moody’ by my 4 siblings… it explains a lot! Time to get happy!
  5. Once you expect something, it will come.Yes!!!
  6. You have the ability to direct your own thoughts; you have the option of observing things as they are, or of imagining them as you want them to be – and whichever option you choose, whether you are imaging or observing, is equally powerful. You have the option of remembering something as it actually occurred or imaging it as you would prefer. You have the option of remembering something that pleased you or remembering something that did not please you. You have the option of anticipating something you want or anticipating something you do not want. In every case your thoughts produce a vibration within you that equals your point of attraction, and then circumstances and events line up to match the vibration that you have offered.
    Considering I spend a lot of time in the past, if I’m going to go down memory lane I choose to just focus on the good memories!
  7. It is not your job to make something happen – Universal Forces are in place for all of that. Your work is to simply determine what you want.Big lesson for me. It sounds really stupid but when I do visualisations I struggle to think about what I want. I’ve become so used to thinking small that I find it hard (unbelievable) to think on a grand scale. But I truly believe in the law of attraction so it’s time to be specific with my desires!
  8.  If you have the ability to imagine it, or even to think about it, this Universe has the ability and the resources to deliver it fully unto you.Well exactly that, time to start thinking big!
  9.  The greatest gift you could ever give to another is your own happiness, for when you are in a state of joy, happiness, or appreciation, you are fully connected to the Stream of pure, positive Source Energy that is truly who you are. And when you are in that state of connection, anything or anyone that you are holding as your object of attention benefits from your attention.I am responsible for the energy I bring to every interaction. Time to bring happiness not moodiness (this is going to be a tough one. lol)!
  10.  When you expect something, it is on the way. When you believe something, it is on the way. When you fear something, it is on the way.
    Time to move from fear into positive expectation.
  11. If you are not expecting it, you are not allowing it.

This goes with point 7. If I’m not dreaming big, I’m not expecting or allowing big life           changes to happen!

There are so many pearls of wisdom in Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires (Law of Attraction) and I’ll be talking more about these in my next post. But if you want to check them out for yourself, check out the book (you will not be disappointed!).

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How to turn negative thoughts into positive action in 6 easy steps

The first indicator that you’re experiencing a negative thought is the way you feel. If you wake up feeling crappy or as you’re going about your normal everyday activities you find yourself feeling low, down, irritated, angry or upset (among others), the chances are that you’re experiencing a negative thought.

Now some people would just tell you to think a positive thought instead and get on with it but for anyone who’s tried this, you’ll know it’s not that easy. When you’re feeling upset, angry, agitated or down the hardest thing to do is try and replace that thought with a more positive one. More often than not, the more you try – the more you just enhance those negative feelings. Unless you know the reason behind a negative thought, it’s very difficult to just switch it to a positive one. 

With this in mind, we’ve created 6 easy and simple steps below to help you turn any negative thought into positive action within a matter of minutes!

Why your thoughts are so important

Who cares if you have negative thoughts? We all have them some time or another, right?

Negative thoughts only become problematic when they drive negative behaviours. We’re not talking about obvious kind of negative behaviours like excessive drinking or violence. We’re talking about the small stuff you do. Or more importantly, the small stuff that you don’t do but should.

We’re talking about the self-sabotaging behaviours that lie beneath the surface. The ones that you’re not probably not even aware of. The behaviours that come from feelings of not being good enough or worthy enough. They show up when you’re scared to meet new people or you’re afraid to go outside of your comfort zone. When you’re terrified of public speaking or when you get anxiety about travelling. We’re talking about these small but significant negative behaviours that hold you back from living the life you deserve.

How to overcome negative thoughts 

The problem with negative thoughts is that until you confront them, they’ll just keep swirling around in your head making you feel worse and worse. Not only that but they’ll continue to drive behaviours that hold you back.

The only way to get rid of a negative thought is to confront it head on, in all it’s glory. This in itself can be a pretty uncomfortable experience but what we can promise is that by the time you reach step 6, you’ll be feeling a whole lot better and clearer about how you want to live your life.

We’ve been working through this process with many of our clients and have had fantastic results. So, if you’re ready to be free of negative thoughts, lets get started! 

 Step 1:  What’s your negative thought?

This is your space to be brutally honest with yourself. Those things you wouldn’t tell a soul – this is the place to jot them all down (just make sure you keep this document somewhere safe and secure). 


If you’re not feeling great right now, sit down and think about what’s been floating around in your head. What are you thinking? Have you just heard some good news about a friend and while you’re happy for them, for some reason you feel down? Or do you keep thinking that you can’t do something? Are you nervous or afraid of doing or wanting something? Are old conversations playing in your head? Are you feeling anger towards a parent or spouse? Are you doubting yourself? Whatever it is that you’re feeling – ask yourself what the thought behind it is.

We’ll be working through the following example as part of these steps:

 

Step 2:  Why are you thinking this thought? 

OK, so now we’ve got that negative thought out of your head and onto some paper (or the screen). Lets figure out why you’re thinking it! Something has clearly happened for this thought to pop up in your head? 

What has lead you to think this thought? You arrived here somehow. What was the trigger?


Step 3: What’s the belief behind this?

This is perhaps the most difficult part of this process. Your belief about yourself is the whole reason that these negative thoughts are cropping up. Your belief system is the engine that’s driving your entire being.

Your beliefs are likely to fall into one of the following categories:

a. Self worth/ approval  – this usually boils down to believing that you’re not good enough or worthy enough

b. Safety /security – do you believe that you’re under threat in some way? That you don’t feel safe?

c. Control – do you believe you have a lack of control in this situation? Like things are just out of your hands?

d. Connection/ love – do you believe that you’re not loved enough or at all? Do you love yourself enough to think highly of yourself?

Continuing with the example above, we now have this:


Step 4: Is this belief really true? 

Come on. Be honest. Is this really 100% true? You might be on such a downer about yourself and your life right now that your first instinct is probably to say ‘yes’. But we want you to really think hard about this.

Is there any shred of evidence (even a minuscule piece) that at some point throughout your entire existence where you can say that this belief wasn’t/ isn’t true? Dig deep here people. 

If the belief is not 100% true, even if it’s 99.99% true – move to step 5.

If you’re struggling with either step 3 or 4, drop us an email or give us a call free and we’ll help you work through this process. There’s no way we’re buying that this belief is 100% true about you! 

Step 5: What do you want to think or believe instead?

Ahh, finally some light at the end of the tunnel. Now it’s the fun part. 


Ok, so what we’ve figured out so far is why you feel crappy, what the negative thought that’s running through your head is, why that thought is there and what the belief behind that thought is. Most importantly of all, we’ve discovered that that belief is not 100% true – which means it isn’t true. End of.

So if this belief about you isn’t true – what is? The world is your oyster here. You can think or believe anything you want to now we know your belief was bullshit. Go crazy here, what do you want to think or believe about yourself instead? 

What you write down in this section can become your own personal affirmation because it resonates with you specifically. Affirmations tend not to work if they are not aligned with your belief system. The beauty of this process is that we’re building a new belief, a belief YOU’VE chosen to have. 

 For example;

I want to believe that I do deserve good things. 

I want to believe that I am worthy of good things

I want to believe that I am good enough


I want to believe that I am doing well in life because, I am. I’m being too hard on myself.

If this doesn’t feel right to you just yet, simply start each affirmation or new belief with“I am in the process of believing… ” 

For example;

I am in the process of believing that I deserve good things. 
And every day in every way, I believe more and more that I deserve good things
Step 6: How are you going to do achieve this?

They (the people in the know) say it takes 21 days to create a new habit. So why not try your new affirmations for 21 days? Repeat them any time you notice yourself feeling that low crappy feeling that lead you to this process. 


Aside from affirmations, there are also a number of other ways you can think or believe what you’ve chosen. What’s your action plan?


How are you going to show yourself that you do, for example, deserve good things? Now you have this new belief and these new thoughts, how are you going to prove to yourself that they are true? This could be in a number of ways. If you truly believed you deserve good things, what would you do? Treat yourself? Put yourself first? Pamper yourself? Speak up for yourself? How would you behave and interact with people if you truly believed you deserved good things? How would dress? Walk? Talk? 

Even if you just have one action point, you have something to build on and work with.

Once you have an action plan of what you need (and want) to do – get out of your head and start ticking those things off!! Not tomorrow, but today, right now! Go treat yourself, walk taller, carry yourself based on your new belief system. Prove it to yourself!

 By the end of this process, your spreadsheet should look something like this: A simple process of following the thought…. 

We recommend you hold on this log of your thoughts. The more evidence you have that your beliefs aren’t actually as true as you thought they were, the easier you’ll find it to overcome negative thoughts/ beliefs in the future.

 So, how do you feel about that negative thought now?

 We’d love to hear how you got on with this process. Please leave a comment or contact us directly.  Also, if you’d like a FREE copy of our ‘follow your thought’ spreadsheet, drop us an email at info@regencyhypnotherapy.com and we’ll get it emailed over to you asap.

Additional support

We have extensive experience of helping clients overcome deep rooted negative beliefs in just one or two sessions. Find out more about how we’ve helped our clients here