Why wait ’til 1st January to change?

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It’s official, the year is coming to a end… the Christmas adverts have already started appearing on tv, stores have started stocking everything Christmas related and it’s freezing cold outside! Yep, there’s no escaping the fact that 2016 is on its way out.

This time of year can often be a depressing. You look back over the last 11 months and realise you didn’t accomplish a number of the goals you set out. You’re a year older and you’re heading towards another year of possibly much of the sameness.

No doubt once you’ve digested your Christmas dinner and tired of playing with your new gifts, you’ll start to wonder what lies ahead of you in the coming year.

Will you finally shift those extra pounds?

Will you quit smoking?

Will you be more proactive?

Will you be more confident?

Will you finally overcome your anxiety?

Will you stop procrastinating and start achieving some of your goals?

January 1st is an important date. It signifies all things new. A new year, a new start and a new you! But why wait until January?

Why not start working on these goals now? Imagine if you’re already on your way to losing weight or have quit smoking? You can head towards the new year with a confidence you’ve not had before. A confidence of knowing that this time you’re going to make it because you’ve ahead of the game.

For November only, we’re offering 50% off Skype Hypnotherapy. So wherever you are in the world, you can have a one to one session with a Harley Street Hypnotherapist from the comfort of your own home.

Sessions are booking up fast so call us FREE on 0800 246 1017 to book yours today.

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Daily motivation: trade your expectations for appreciation

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A simple life hack to being happier is to trade your expectations for appreciation. When you expect nothing, you can’t be disappointed. View every encounter with gratitude.

If someone turns up late to meet you, rather than being upset that they’re late. Be grateful that they made it!

#youronlylimitisyou

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How I failed my 100 day challenge… but still changed my life!

Ok, so I’ve been in hiding for a while now but it’s time to come clean.

You may recall my (now hilarious) post back in January 2016 when I proudly (and publicly, well… on WordPress) declared that I was starting a 100 day challenge to change my life.

To be fair to myself, I think I managed about 40 or so days which for me is pretty fantastic for me but 100 days? Not even close.

I can’t say for sure what went wrong, but somehow, as usual … life got in the way. I got bogged down with the same old shit and made the same old broken promises.

I was going to spend a few more paragraphs beating myself up about this epic failure but I’ve cried two tears in a bucket, so fuck it.

Time to move on.

So what the hell have I been up to since January and how has my life actually changed?

Those of you who were kind enough to offer me words of encouragement when I started my ambitious challenge will be pleased to know that I haven’t spent all of those months watching everything and anything on TV. But I must confess, I did get through every season of the Sopranos and Six Feet Under… and just a few others that I seemed to have missed when they originally aired back in the day. But aside from that, I have been productive!

I qualified as a clinical Hypnotherapist and along with some colleagues have launched Regency Hypnotherapy. We have offices in Harley Street and we’re now officially open for business.

In addition to that, through my training I finally feel like I’m in a good place. My biggest lesson for this year is to view any kind of negative behaviour as coming from a place of insecurity. When you see the world that way, the world seems to be a lot less hostile. I will explain more about this in a future post.

For now, I just want to say that “I’m back!” and to thank you all sincerely for taking the time out to follow me and to offer your words of support and encouragement. Each and every one of them are greatly appreciated.

And if I could just ask for one more huge favour?! Please spread the word about Regency Hypnotherapy and drop by and say hi at http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com if you get a spare second!

Love and blessings, the Happy Soul Hub xx

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I am enough. Are you?

Yeah, we’ve all heard this a million times before, right?

It’s like that scene in Good Will Hunting when Robin Williams repeatedly keeps telling a young fresh faced Matt Damon that it’s not his fault and Matt’s all like “yeah, I know it’s not” but Robin keeps on at him. “It’s not your fault Will (Matt). It’s not your fault Will” and on and on until Matt starts swearing and then finally breaks down and starts crying. Poor Matt.

Now Robin wasn’t being mean. He just needed Matt to know and believe that it wasn’t his fault. Because dammit, it wasn’t Matt’s fault!!!! (and it never will be in my eyes). Robin had to say it to him over and over again until Matt was able to believe it.

Matt initially plays along “yeah Robin, I know it’s not my fault”. Then he resists “don’t fuck with me Robin” and finally he accepts “sob sob”. And that’s the moment right there, when his life starts to change!

**If you haven’t seen Good Will Hunting yet don’t judge it on my description of this scene! But where the hell have you been? Go see it!

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It’s the same thing with this principle. We all know we’re enough… right? I mean if you were to ask yourself right now if you were enough, your first and immediate response would more than likely be ‘yes’. But are you really? Then why aren’t you crying dammit?

The majority of us have an underlying hidden belief that in some way, shape or form we’re not enough. Sometimes it’s obvious where this belief comes from. Obvious to a Hypnotherapist at least. There will be there abusive parent, the Mother who left when you were young, the constant criticism from an overbearing father. These childhood events often lead to a feeling of not being enough, a feeling that stays with many of us throughout our lives holding us back from being all that we could be.

More often then not however, this belief is hidden somewhere so deep inside you that you absolutely no idea that you even think that you’re not enough. You’re just not one of those people, right? But your actions (or lack of), give you away…

 

They’re in that project you never complete.
That job you want but never apply for.
The pay rise you never ask for.
It’s when you accomplish all of your goals but never feel fulfilled or happy
The dance class you’ve always wanted to take but never do.
In never dreaming big because good things like that just don’t happen to you.

A good Hypnotherapist can help you figure out where this belief comes from and how to turn it around, usually in one or two sessions. But you don’t always necessarily need to know where the belief comes from. There’s a lot you can do to help yourself, starting right now.

So what’s the solution?

I’ve recently come across the work of Marisa Peer, who according to her website is the UK’s leading Therapist – so she must know her shit!

According to Marisa, the solution is a simple one. She tells her clients that three little words could change their lives. Yep, you’ve guessed it! These three little words are: I am enough.

Marisa suggests writing these words on your mirrors and on your phone and to basically surround yourself with them. So strong is Marisa’s belief in these words that she says when her clients have started saying them she has seen their lives transformed!

Whaaat??? Could it really be that easy? Marisa says ‘yes’!

That sounds like a challenge to me!

Now I have no idea if this works but it’s time to put these theories to the test and see if there really is some magic to be had in this easy to do self-help stuff that I always read about but never do! So, I’m adding these three little words to the remainder of my 100 day challenge.

My mirrors are already wearing my finest red lipstick and I’m rearing to go. Let’s give this a shot see where it takes us! I will of course report back with my findings so watch this space!

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Why not go grab yourself a red lipstick too and write ‘I am enough’ on every mirror in your house? Say it loud and say it proud whenever you see it. Say it to yourself repeatedly while you have a shower, when you do the washing up or just when you have some spare space in your head.

You never know what might just happen when you stop resisting and start believing… in you!

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Day 5 of the 100 day challenge

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Today’s 5 minutes journal was darker, a lot more depressing and angry to write but I’m glad I got those dark thoughts out of my head and into my notebook. I’m not feeling amazing, but at least I don’t have to carry the bulk of those dark thoughts around with me for the rest of the day.

I chose to do another meditation from  Shakti Gawain’s ‘Creative Visualization’ – specifically, the ‘Grounding yourself and running energy’ on page 87.

I read the meditation and then recorded myself reading it loud. So glad I did! It really helped get me in the zone… although I have to remember to read really really slowly next time and allow for very long pauses. My imagination needs time to do its thang!

This meditation gets you to imagine that there is a ‘grounding chord’ coming out of the base of your spine, going into the ground likes the roots of a tree. This allows you to pull energy from the earth and move it up through your body. This is mixed with energy from the ‘cosmos’ coming through the top of your head and down into the ground. (well, that’s my take on the whole thing anyway).

I like this. I like the idea of energy flowing through me, taking the good from the earth and sending it up through me into the universe and vice versa. I’ll be doing this more often for sure!

Now to the visualisation…

I had an interesting conversation with one of my brothers this evening. I asked him what he saw when he visualised his goals. He didn’t. WTF? A non-believer? He said he didn’t see the point of it!

After I removed the look of shock from my face, I told him excitedly about athletes and how the successful ones almost always say that they have imagined running a particular race a thousand times in their minds or they have mentally been through the course dozens of times. I told him that I honestly believe this works… but when I tell myself to visualise something, I go blank or my picture seems to fuzzy to actually see anything.

My brother, a film maker sees everything in clear pictures or moving images. He couldn’t understand how I couldn’t do this and I couldn’t understand how he could! I told him about my vision board and how, for example,  I ‘visualised’ being in Hawaii. I told him I was struggling with this because I have obviously never been to Hawaii, so how can I visualise it?

“But how does this relate to your 100 day challenge?” he asked. Say what?

“Well, I’m practising visualisation obviously! If I end up in Hawaii sometime in my life, I’ll know it worked!”, said I.

“Ermn, no. That’s not really a good experiment/challenge.  You can always twist your results to fit your way of thinking. Whatever you want, whatever you visualise, it has to happen in the 100 days of your challenge or it’s not a challenge

Mother trucker!

Ok, this guy has a point. This got me thinking and thinking hard. Admittedly, I’m not ready to go to Hawaii in the next 95 days so I don’t want to visualise this happening. But I would love to book my luxury trip to Hawaii before the challenge is over. What’s more, I would love to book it with the extra income £2k a month I want to visualise (rather than out of my current salary which would be a huge stretch).

Hmmn. You guys, I think I’m starting to get this!!!!!

I need my goals to be specific and measurable and that’s what I need to picture happening.  When I think of my goals/ desires in this way… I’m starting to actually see images in my mind. Moreover, I’m starting to feel excited when I sit down to think about them rather than thinking of them as a chore.

That kid (well, the 36 year old) is on to something!

Oh and my brother has also decided to visualise being a good Salsa dancer. He’s been to classes on and off for years but just doesn’t have the confidence to lead on the dance floor. He’s agreed to go through the moves in his mind daily, like a Salsa athlete…. so watch this space!

Day 4 of the 100 day challenge

Day 4 was not a good day!

I worked from home which meant my ‘routine’ fell right out the window. I also wasn’t feeling great so I spent the entire day stretched out on the sofa, like Jabba the Hutt… eating crap and watching crap.

At 11.30pm I decided it was time to write my 5 minute journal. Despite my day being pretty dark and depressing, my journal entry was the opposite. I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude for a job I proclaim to hate. Despite all it’s flaws, I’m pretty damn lucky to have an understanding boss who allows me to work at home whenever I feel shitty – and that’s usually once or twice a week!

After journalling, I decided to learn more about visualisation and read a bit more of the Shakti Gawain book ‘Creative Visualization’. I’ve had this on my Kindle for about a year but it’s slow going… I think perhaps because she talks at length about the theory behind the process when all I want to know is what the process is! I’m already a believer, just let me use the product already!

Anyway, somewhat coincidentally, I reached the chapter on meditation and visualisation yesterday.

I ended up doing the meditation on page 89 called ‘opening the energy centers’. This is unlike any meditation I’ve done before. You have to imagine that there’s “a glowing sphere of golden light” surrounding your head and different parts of your body. You move this energy around your body (as described in the book) and eventually allow it to “radiate from the top of your head like a fountain of light.”

According to the book, when you finish you will feel deeply relaxed yet energised. I can’t say that I did but I like the idea of this kind of meditation. I think my problem was that I couldn’t remember exactly how and where I was supposed to be moving this energy. I need this to be more of a guided meditation so for Day 5, methinks I’m going to record myself reading this meditation and then play it back when I’m doing the meditation. This is going to be difficult because I hate the sound of my voice but needs must!

I also found a useful chapter on visualisation on page 98 called ‘pink bubble technique’. All you need to do is imagine something you want to manifest and imagine that it has already happened. You have to picture it as clearly as possible in your mind and then surround this image/ picture/ fantasy with a pink bubble. You then put your goal inside the bubble and imagine it floating off into the universe – thus showing your trust that this is going to happen. Oh, and the reason the bubble is pink because that’s the colour of the heart!

Again, I struggled a little with this visualisation. I began by visualising all the pictures on my vision board. The good thing is, I can visualise it clearly and was able to move around the board without having to look at it. Where I struggled was imagining that these things had already happened. For example, the pregnancy picture.. do I imagine I’m already pregnant or that I’ve had the baby? Also, I found I was focussing too much on the shade of pink for the bubble. When I first read the word ‘pink’ I imagined bubble gum pink but then I read the bit about the heart. The heart is not bubble gum pink! I had to try and come up with a more appropriate shade of pink which took me away from the images I was supposed to be visualising!!! I know, when my mind wonders it sure does wonder some dumb shit.

I shall persevere though. I think these two techniques could be good so I will try them again on Day 5 (unless I read about some better ones).

 

 

 

Day 3 of the 100 day challenge

So, I’ve been struggling with this whole visualisation part of my 100 day challenge. The 5 minute journal is something I’m really enjoying, the meditation is something I think I’ll come to enjoy but the visualisation thing is proving to be quite a challenge!

For the first two days, I spent about 5 minutes a day just imagining myself in a nice house, having a few nice things but it didn’t seem a) real or b) focussed. I spent most of Day 3 dreading the visualisation and trying to think of ways I could make it feel more real and focussed. And then it hit me – a vision board!!!

I did a quick search of Google images and found some pictures that I thought would represent my dreams for the next 100 days. Then off I went to make my vision board.

Turns out this wasn’t as easy as I had first thought. You can obviously tell by the design and layout of my blog (and this vision board) that I’m not tech savvy. But how the hell do you stick a bunch of images together digitally and quickly? Enter Picasa!!!! My new favourite toy. There are of course other ways you can create vision board such as these but Picasa is the one for me!

So, after playing around with this for an hour or so (yes, it took me that long) I created this here vision board:

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But what does it all mean? Allow me to explain. Over the next 97 days, I intend to focus on this vision board and visualise:

1. The Happy Soul Hub becoming a successful blog
2. Getting pregnant (I’m not trying for a baby yet but I’m approaching 38 and my body clock is ticking loud and hard. I don’t necessarily feel ready to have a baby just yet… I mean if Mother Nature allowed it I’d probably wait another 10 years but they say you’re never ready, so this is the year!)
3. Hawaii – I have dreamed of going to Hawaii for as long as I can remember. I’m going to visualise this happening. That I go in style, staying at the best hotel and not worrying about my spending money.
4. Making more money! For now, I’m going to visualise earning an extra £2,000 a month. Not sure how this is going to happen but I’m going to focus on seeing my bank statements increase by that sum every month.
5. Buying a flat to rent. There are some new flats being built close to my house, I’d like to buy one of these flats which is something I’m nowhere near doing right now. But hey, might as well visualise it!
6. Becoming a successful Harley Street Hypnotherapist. I’m currently training to be a Hypnotherapist and this is something I’d really love to pursue. If you’re going to dream, might as well dream big so Harley Street is it!
7. Being lucky! For the next 97 days, I’m going to visualise that luck is on my side.
8. Doing up my house. I moved into my new house a year ago and I haven’t been able to do much with it. I’m going to visualise my home becoming my perfect living environment

Right, that should keep me occupied for more than 5 minutes a day! I’m planning on looking at my vision board every morning whilst I’m on my way to work and slowly moving around each picture, visualising having each of these things.

I read somewhere that in order for visualisation / the Law of Attraction to work you have to get the feeling of already having what you want. So, if I want a new handbag I have to imagine how I’d feel having that new handbag. As we know, whenever you want something new, a few days after you have it you feel as if you’d had it all along.. that’s the feeling I need to create when I’m looking at my vision board.

Here goes…

 

 

Day 2 of the 100 day challenge

Not a great start today. Woke up at 2pm! WTF?

It’s Saturday so I’m not going to be too hard on myself but I really need to break free of this teenage sleeping pattern, especially considering I’m two months away from turning 38! Or may be I don’t? I’ll explain more in my post on the Counterclockwise study – but that’s for another day.

So, the 5 minute journal went well. As with yesterday, I woke up excited to write in it. Not because I had anything particularly interesting to say but because I wanted to get those swirling thoughts outta my head and out of my day.

I’m struggling with the meditation and visualisation today. It’s 3.28pm and I still haven’t done it… but I’m not moving from this seat until it’s ticked off so back tonight with an update!

… Ok, I’m back! I managed to do a 10 minute guided meditation but I have to be honest. My heart wasn’t into it. Nonetheless, I did it anyway.

I didn’t manage to squeeze the 5 minute visualisation in until I was in bed. I realise how pathetic that sounds as I type this. Anyway, I visualised having a kids, my house all decorated, waking up smiling getting ready to go to work, to a job I love. I imagined I had a brand new black Range Rover in my drive way (not because I particularly like this car but because I can’t think of any other car I want). Somewhere between all that visualising, I fell asleep….

I’m really struggling with the visualisation cos I just don’t know what I want. I can’t even commit to anything in my mind. I think I need to do some Googling tomorrow and put together some kind of vision board. For this to work, I need to really believe and focus and have a true desire to have the things I’m visualising.

Anyone else had any luck with this visualisation thing? What’s your process? Any tips would be soo appreciated!!!

Day 1 of the 100 day challenge

Ok, so Day 1 was relatively easy and painless. It’s a Friday. Friday 22 January 2016 to be exact. I never start anything new on a Friday but what the hell?!, ‘my way’ hasn’t ever really worked for me in the past so it’s time to change this up a little!

I woke up around 8am, allowing myself an hour to get ready for work as I usually do. That’s right, I leave for work at 9am most days! What can I say?

Squeezing the 5 minute journal in was really easy. I actually had lots of time spare and I wasn’t even rushing around. It’s like the hour had completely slowed down. Go figure.

I didn’t really journal about anything in particular. I basically just dumped all of those thoughts that were swirling through my mind before I even opened my eyes on to my notebook. I have to say, this felt really good. It’s as if I almost felt instantly lighter. I wasn’t carrying around my baggage for the day. I hadn’t solved any of these problems, but I didn’t need to  – it helped just getting them off my chest and making them my notebooks problem for now and not mine.

So off I went to work. I did the meditation on the tube. Granted, it’s not ideal but if it’s pretty relaxing drowning out all of the noise. On my way to the station, I was listening to this Youtube video of a guy explaining visualisation. It was the first video on the page. You can find it here .

This was helpful as I hadn’t really done any prep for my 100 day challenge. I literally decided what it was going to be at around 11pm the night before, after talking with my brother and sister.

The video got me to focus on visualisation techniques and how it all works. By the time I reached the station, the guided mediation had begun. That was the meditation part of the challenge ticked off nicely, thank you very much.

Now that I was fully relaxed, I spent 5 or so minutes visualising myself having kids and being in my house all decorated nicely, feeling calm and peaceful, enjoying my job and having a great income. I need to fine tune this vision but I think it’s a good start.

It’s very easy to complain about not having everything you want but what I find so difficult about ‘visualising’ is that I don’t really know what I want!!! That probably explains why I don’t have much! The difficulty is going to be to figure out exactly what I want, in detail! For example, if I want a new car I need to know what that car is!

I do want more because I feel unfulfilled, but most of the time I am too lazy to figure out what that ‘more’ is.

Lets see what the next 99 days hold.

One thing I do have to say though is that I felt a lot more calm, relaxed and ready for the day just implementing these 3 simple routines:

  • 5 minute journal
  • 10 minute meditation
  • 5 minute visualisation

I’m writing this blog to hold myself accountable. Something I never ever do.. which probably explains why I’m not very good at completing tasks!

So here goes…