Priyanka Chopra’s advice on following your dreams

In her first article for LinkedIn, actress Priyanka Chopra talks of the battle within herself to follow her dreams. She describes her thinking process from winning Miss World in 2000 to leaving Bollywood for Hollywood and becoming the first Indian lead of an American TV show.

Priyanka’s secret to success is simple. Throughout her 16 year career, she has always asked herself “what do YOU want?”.

“We all make plans for our lives but most often are too scared or embarrassed about our ambitions to go after it wholeheartedly. And that’s where it all falls apart”

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Why wait ’til 1st January to change?

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It’s official, the year is coming to a end… the Christmas adverts have already started appearing on tv, stores have started stocking everything Christmas related and it’s freezing cold outside! Yep, there’s no escaping the fact that 2016 is on its way out.

This time of year can often be a depressing. You look back over the last 11 months and realise you didn’t accomplish a number of the goals you set out. You’re a year older and you’re heading towards another year of possibly much of the sameness.

No doubt once you’ve digested your Christmas dinner and tired of playing with your new gifts, you’ll start to wonder what lies ahead of you in the coming year.

Will you finally shift those extra pounds?

Will you quit smoking?

Will you be more proactive?

Will you be more confident?

Will you finally overcome your anxiety?

Will you stop procrastinating and start achieving some of your goals?

January 1st is an important date. It signifies all things new. A new year, a new start and a new you! But why wait until January?

Why not start working on these goals now? Imagine if you’re already on your way to losing weight or have quit smoking? You can head towards the new year with a confidence you’ve not had before. A confidence of knowing that this time you’re going to make it because you’ve ahead of the game.

For November only, we’re offering 50% off Skype Hypnotherapy. So wherever you are in the world, you can have a one to one session with a Harley Street Hypnotherapist from the comfort of your own home.

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Daily motivation: trade your expectations for appreciation

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A simple life hack to being happier is to trade your expectations for appreciation. When you expect nothing, you can’t be disappointed. View every encounter with gratitude.

If someone turns up late to meet you, rather than being upset that they’re late. Be grateful that they made it!

#youronlylimitisyou

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But you don’t look sick? Living with a hidden illness.

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Suffering with a hidden illness or disease, whether it be mental or physical can take it’s toll on you. But unlike visible physical illnesses, no one knows you’re suffering but you.

There is little insight into what it’s like living with conditions such as  endometriosis, lupus, depression or anxiety (to name a few) and how hard suffers of these illnesses work to appear ‘well’.

Imagine you start each week with a supply of 10 marbles for each day. These marbles represent the energy you need to complete basic tasks such as showering  and getting ready (1 marble), travelling to work (1 marble), doing a days work (5 marbles), travelling home (1 marble), cooking & cleaning (1 marble), getting yourself organised for the next day etc (1 marble).

Each day you wake up with your supply of 10 marbles and you mentally plan where and when you’ll use them. If you’ve woken up in pain, you might need 3 marbles of energy to get to work rather than your usual 1. That leaves you with just 7 to get through the rest of the day, including the 3 that you’ll need just to travel back home.

By mid day, it’s pretty clear that you’re not going to have enough marbles to make it to the end of the day. But this is real life and you can’t just magic up more marbles on demand! So you go into your reserves, you start running on empty. Your body, like a clapped up old car starts slowing down. Pain sets in. Migraines, headaches, stomach pains, fatigue. Your skin is breaking out and you feel cold and low. Your body is crying out for you to stop, but you can’t. You’re a grown up. You look fine and no one can see what’s going on inside of you, so you just get on with it. Like you do every day. You begin counting down the minutes til you can clock off. You take a few more painkillers, the pack you bought last week is nearly empty but you just need to make it to 5pm. Once you’re home, you can lie in a dark room and die slowly in peace and quiet.

You suddenly remember that you promised a friend that you’d meet her for a drink after work. You battle with yourself for hours about what ‘excuse’ you’re going to make up to cancel. You can’t tell her you’re unwell again, you were unwell last week too when you had to cancel. Also, she would have seen the pictures of you on Facebook on Saturday at the wedding you went to, looking happy… and ‘healthy’. She won’t understand that you used 20 marbles just to get through that wedding. That you spent the whole of Sunday lying on your sofa trying to re-energize because you were flat out of marbles. Patiently waiting for your next supply of marbles to arrive on Monday morning. She won’t know that you wasted a days leave on Friday, just so you could sit at home and only use up 5 marbles, saving as many as you could for Saturday. She won’t understand, because no one does.

When you’re living with an unseen illness, you have to plan every day, every week and every month in advance. For conditions such as endometriosis for example, life is planned around your period. No events, parties, meet ups or even weddings can be organised during this time otherwise you’re just going to have to let people down. But what if your period arrives early? or late? What if this month your symptoms are manageable so you can go out but last month they were excruciating. Everyone will just think you’ve been making it up? They won’t understand that every day, every week and every month is different. That no matter how well you try and plan your marbles, life throws us a curve ball every so often – just like it does you.

They won’t understand that sometimes, you spend days doing as little as possible trying to stockpile your marbles so you can go out and honour your commitments. They won’t understand that just going to work and doing a normal days work, when you’re feeling ‘normal’ will use up all 10 of your marbles. That’s why you can’t meet up for a coffee after work, especially because it’s Monday and you have another 4 days of this before you can rest and conserve some of those marbles at the weekend. They won’t understand that simple tasks for them, such as travelling to work on the tube or spending an hour shopping can use up a handful of marbles, especially on a bad day. They won’t understand that while you’re sitting there, sipping your tea with them, catching up – your stomach is cramping, or your anxiety is surfacing and you’re using up 3-4 marbles, just trying to appear ‘normal’.

They won’t understand because you look well. Because you tire yourself out mentally and physically doing your best to cover your tracks, to balance your marbles – just so you can appear ‘well’. That on the days that you do feel ‘well’ and have a few spare marbles lying around, you’re elated with this burst of energy and you try and do as much as you possibly can. Clean the house from top to bottom, go for a run, visit family, cook, do your washing and maybe even your paperwork. Because sometimes, for a brief moment, even you forget that you’re living life marble to marble….

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50% off Skype Hypnotherapy sessions

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If you’ve decided it’s time you want to change your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Contact us at http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com for 50% off your first session.

We offer Skype sessions 7 days a week at a time that suits you, with  a Harley Street Hypnotherapist.

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Don’t be a prisoner to your own thoughts, your only limit is you!

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How I failed my 100 day challenge… but still changed my life!

Ok, so I’ve been in hiding for a while now but it’s time to come clean.

You may recall my (now hilarious) post back in January 2016 when I proudly (and publicly, well… on WordPress) declared that I was starting a 100 day challenge to change my life.

To be fair to myself, I think I managed about 40 or so days which for me is pretty fantastic for me but 100 days? Not even close.

I can’t say for sure what went wrong, but somehow, as usual … life got in the way. I got bogged down with the same old shit and made the same old broken promises.

I was going to spend a few more paragraphs beating myself up about this epic failure but I’ve cried two tears in a bucket, so fuck it.

Time to move on.

So what the hell have I been up to since January and how has my life actually changed?

Those of you who were kind enough to offer me words of encouragement when I started my ambitious challenge will be pleased to know that I haven’t spent all of those months watching everything and anything on TV. But I must confess, I did get through every season of the Sopranos and Six Feet Under… and just a few others that I seemed to have missed when they originally aired back in the day. But aside from that, I have been productive!

I qualified as a clinical Hypnotherapist and along with some colleagues have launched Regency Hypnotherapy. We have offices in Harley Street and we’re now officially open for business.

In addition to that, through my training I finally feel like I’m in a good place. My biggest lesson for this year is to view any kind of negative behaviour as coming from a place of insecurity. When you see the world that way, the world seems to be a lot less hostile. I will explain more about this in a future post.

For now, I just want to say that “I’m back!” and to thank you all sincerely for taking the time out to follow me and to offer your words of support and encouragement. Each and every one of them are greatly appreciated.

And if I could just ask for one more huge favour?! Please spread the word about Regency Hypnotherapy and drop by and say hi at http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com if you get a spare second!

Love and blessings, the Happy Soul Hub xx

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I am enough. Are you?

Yeah, we’ve all heard this a million times before, right?

It’s like that scene in Good Will Hunting when Robin Williams repeatedly keeps telling a young fresh faced Matt Damon that it’s not his fault and Matt’s all like “yeah, I know it’s not” but Robin keeps on at him. “It’s not your fault Will (Matt). It’s not your fault Will” and on and on until Matt starts swearing and then finally breaks down and starts crying. Poor Matt.

Now Robin wasn’t being mean. He just needed Matt to know and believe that it wasn’t his fault. Because dammit, it wasn’t Matt’s fault!!!! (and it never will be in my eyes). Robin had to say it to him over and over again until Matt was able to believe it.

Matt initially plays along “yeah Robin, I know it’s not my fault”. Then he resists “don’t fuck with me Robin” and finally he accepts “sob sob”. And that’s the moment right there, when his life starts to change!

**If you haven’t seen Good Will Hunting yet don’t judge it on my description of this scene! But where the hell have you been? Go see it!

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It’s the same thing with this principle. We all know we’re enough… right? I mean if you were to ask yourself right now if you were enough, your first and immediate response would more than likely be ‘yes’. But are you really? Then why aren’t you crying dammit?

The majority of us have an underlying hidden belief that in some way, shape or form we’re not enough. Sometimes it’s obvious where this belief comes from. Obvious to a Hypnotherapist at least. There will be there abusive parent, the Mother who left when you were young, the constant criticism from an overbearing father. These childhood events often lead to a feeling of not being enough, a feeling that stays with many of us throughout our lives holding us back from being all that we could be.

More often then not however, this belief is hidden somewhere so deep inside you that you absolutely no idea that you even think that you’re not enough. You’re just not one of those people, right? But your actions (or lack of), give you away…

 

They’re in that project you never complete.
That job you want but never apply for.
The pay rise you never ask for.
It’s when you accomplish all of your goals but never feel fulfilled or happy
The dance class you’ve always wanted to take but never do.
In never dreaming big because good things like that just don’t happen to you.

A good Hypnotherapist can help you figure out where this belief comes from and how to turn it around, usually in one or two sessions. But you don’t always necessarily need to know where the belief comes from. There’s a lot you can do to help yourself, starting right now.

So what’s the solution?

I’ve recently come across the work of Marisa Peer, who according to her website is the UK’s leading Therapist – so she must know her shit!

According to Marisa, the solution is a simple one. She tells her clients that three little words could change their lives. Yep, you’ve guessed it! These three little words are: I am enough.

Marisa suggests writing these words on your mirrors and on your phone and to basically surround yourself with them. So strong is Marisa’s belief in these words that she says when her clients have started saying them she has seen their lives transformed!

Whaaat??? Could it really be that easy? Marisa says ‘yes’!

That sounds like a challenge to me!

Now I have no idea if this works but it’s time to put these theories to the test and see if there really is some magic to be had in this easy to do self-help stuff that I always read about but never do! So, I’m adding these three little words to the remainder of my 100 day challenge.

My mirrors are already wearing my finest red lipstick and I’m rearing to go. Let’s give this a shot see where it takes us! I will of course report back with my findings so watch this space!

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Why not go grab yourself a red lipstick too and write ‘I am enough’ on every mirror in your house? Say it loud and say it proud whenever you see it. Say it to yourself repeatedly while you have a shower, when you do the washing up or just when you have some spare space in your head.

You never know what might just happen when you stop resisting and start believing… in you!

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Day 5 of the 100 day challenge

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Today’s 5 minutes journal was darker, a lot more depressing and angry to write but I’m glad I got those dark thoughts out of my head and into my notebook. I’m not feeling amazing, but at least I don’t have to carry the bulk of those dark thoughts around with me for the rest of the day.

I chose to do another meditation from  Shakti Gawain’s ‘Creative Visualization’ – specifically, the ‘Grounding yourself and running energy’ on page 87.

I read the meditation and then recorded myself reading it loud. So glad I did! It really helped get me in the zone… although I have to remember to read really really slowly next time and allow for very long pauses. My imagination needs time to do its thang!

This meditation gets you to imagine that there is a ‘grounding chord’ coming out of the base of your spine, going into the ground likes the roots of a tree. This allows you to pull energy from the earth and move it up through your body. This is mixed with energy from the ‘cosmos’ coming through the top of your head and down into the ground. (well, that’s my take on the whole thing anyway).

I like this. I like the idea of energy flowing through me, taking the good from the earth and sending it up through me into the universe and vice versa. I’ll be doing this more often for sure!

Now to the visualisation…

I had an interesting conversation with one of my brothers this evening. I asked him what he saw when he visualised his goals. He didn’t. WTF? A non-believer? He said he didn’t see the point of it!

After I removed the look of shock from my face, I told him excitedly about athletes and how the successful ones almost always say that they have imagined running a particular race a thousand times in their minds or they have mentally been through the course dozens of times. I told him that I honestly believe this works… but when I tell myself to visualise something, I go blank or my picture seems to fuzzy to actually see anything.

My brother, a film maker sees everything in clear pictures or moving images. He couldn’t understand how I couldn’t do this and I couldn’t understand how he could! I told him about my vision board and how, for example,  I ‘visualised’ being in Hawaii. I told him I was struggling with this because I have obviously never been to Hawaii, so how can I visualise it?

“But how does this relate to your 100 day challenge?” he asked. Say what?

“Well, I’m practising visualisation obviously! If I end up in Hawaii sometime in my life, I’ll know it worked!”, said I.

“Ermn, no. That’s not really a good experiment/challenge.  You can always twist your results to fit your way of thinking. Whatever you want, whatever you visualise, it has to happen in the 100 days of your challenge or it’s not a challenge

Mother trucker!

Ok, this guy has a point. This got me thinking and thinking hard. Admittedly, I’m not ready to go to Hawaii in the next 95 days so I don’t want to visualise this happening. But I would love to book my luxury trip to Hawaii before the challenge is over. What’s more, I would love to book it with the extra income £2k a month I want to visualise (rather than out of my current salary which would be a huge stretch).

Hmmn. You guys, I think I’m starting to get this!!!!!

I need my goals to be specific and measurable and that’s what I need to picture happening.  When I think of my goals/ desires in this way… I’m starting to actually see images in my mind. Moreover, I’m starting to feel excited when I sit down to think about them rather than thinking of them as a chore.

That kid (well, the 36 year old) is on to something!

Oh and my brother has also decided to visualise being a good Salsa dancer. He’s been to classes on and off for years but just doesn’t have the confidence to lead on the dance floor. He’s agreed to go through the moves in his mind daily, like a Salsa athlete…. so watch this space!

Day 4 of the 100 day challenge

Day 4 was not a good day!

I worked from home which meant my ‘routine’ fell right out the window. I also wasn’t feeling great so I spent the entire day stretched out on the sofa, like Jabba the Hutt… eating crap and watching crap.

At 11.30pm I decided it was time to write my 5 minute journal. Despite my day being pretty dark and depressing, my journal entry was the opposite. I felt an overwhelming sense of gratitude for a job I proclaim to hate. Despite all it’s flaws, I’m pretty damn lucky to have an understanding boss who allows me to work at home whenever I feel shitty – and that’s usually once or twice a week!

After journalling, I decided to learn more about visualisation and read a bit more of the Shakti Gawain book ‘Creative Visualization’. I’ve had this on my Kindle for about a year but it’s slow going… I think perhaps because she talks at length about the theory behind the process when all I want to know is what the process is! I’m already a believer, just let me use the product already!

Anyway, somewhat coincidentally, I reached the chapter on meditation and visualisation yesterday.

I ended up doing the meditation on page 89 called ‘opening the energy centers’. This is unlike any meditation I’ve done before. You have to imagine that there’s “a glowing sphere of golden light” surrounding your head and different parts of your body. You move this energy around your body (as described in the book) and eventually allow it to “radiate from the top of your head like a fountain of light.”

According to the book, when you finish you will feel deeply relaxed yet energised. I can’t say that I did but I like the idea of this kind of meditation. I think my problem was that I couldn’t remember exactly how and where I was supposed to be moving this energy. I need this to be more of a guided meditation so for Day 5, methinks I’m going to record myself reading this meditation and then play it back when I’m doing the meditation. This is going to be difficult because I hate the sound of my voice but needs must!

I also found a useful chapter on visualisation on page 98 called ‘pink bubble technique’. All you need to do is imagine something you want to manifest and imagine that it has already happened. You have to picture it as clearly as possible in your mind and then surround this image/ picture/ fantasy with a pink bubble. You then put your goal inside the bubble and imagine it floating off into the universe – thus showing your trust that this is going to happen. Oh, and the reason the bubble is pink because that’s the colour of the heart!

Again, I struggled a little with this visualisation. I began by visualising all the pictures on my vision board. The good thing is, I can visualise it clearly and was able to move around the board without having to look at it. Where I struggled was imagining that these things had already happened. For example, the pregnancy picture.. do I imagine I’m already pregnant or that I’ve had the baby? Also, I found I was focussing too much on the shade of pink for the bubble. When I first read the word ‘pink’ I imagined bubble gum pink but then I read the bit about the heart. The heart is not bubble gum pink! I had to try and come up with a more appropriate shade of pink which took me away from the images I was supposed to be visualising!!! I know, when my mind wonders it sure does wonder some dumb shit.

I shall persevere though. I think these two techniques could be good so I will try them again on Day 5 (unless I read about some better ones).