How to turn your pain into power

The truth is, everyone has a sad story. The chances are that somewhere along your journey of life, something not so great happened to you. You may or may not even know it, but you’ve carried the pain of that sadness around with you for your whole entire life. Like an invisible anchor, it’s been pulling you down, holding you back in some way. Undetected, its been dictating the choices you make and the person you’ve become.

 

 

Some people have suffered inconceivable tragic events. Their sad stories are obvious and it’s easy to understand why they may engage in self-sabotaging or destructive behaviours. For the majority of us however, the sadness is so subtle, so buried beneath the surface that we don’t even realise that it’s there. That it’s silently weaving its destruction. But the clues are obvious, if we’re willing to acknowledge them. They lie in the overeating, the lack of self-control, the insecurities, the low self-esteem, the addictions, the anxieties… and the pain.

 So ingrained into our daily lives are these behaviours that we view them as completely normal. We tell ourselves that they are just a part of who we are. Yet, the overeating leads to obesity and a variety of health complications. The insecurities lead to jealousy or the inability to have a healthy, loving relationship. The consequences of addictions such as smoking and drinking are well known… yet every day, we continue to kill ourselves just that little bit more. Unaware of the reasons why. On autopilot, we just do what we need to, to get through the day.

These habits and behaviours that frustrate you, the ones that you wish you could overcome … they all started somewhere. There’s a reason you started smoking and there’s a reason you can’t quit, no matter how hard you try. There’s a reason why the thought of speaking in public makes you break out in a cold panicked sweat and there’s a reason why you over eat. There’s a reason why despite everyone telling you how beautiful and amazing you are, you just can’t see it.

These subtle but destructive behaviours can stem from anywhere. And because they are so subtle, it’s difficult to make the connection on a conscious level. It could be the harsh words of an overly strict parent, the constant mocking by a sibling or the fear of losing a loved one. Childhood events such as these, which can seem minor through the passage of time can impact your life in ways you cannot even begin to imagine. Yet, every day – the effects are there, showing up in every day habits… in the drag of a cigarette or the secret night time cookie binge.

 

We hear stories from clients of all different backgrounds who are struggling with anxiety, eating disorders, phobias or addictions. We listen to clients trying to rationalise these behaviours and trying to figure out why they just can’t stop doing what they’re doing. We also hear about the impact of these habits and how destructive they really are.

Our aim isn’t to analyse these behaviours but instead to find the root cause through Hypnosis. Once we know what the initial trigger is, the healing can really begin. The best part is, once a client walks out of our office (or ends the Skype call) they don’t have to do an ounce of work to change. The shift has already occurred and will continue to grow. We as therapists have the unique privilege of witnessing this transformation right before our eyes.

Real life case studies:

1. Kat

Last year we met Kat who in her view grew up in the perfect family and was always supported and encouraged in everything she did. Kat couldn’t understand why with all this support and a loving family, she was so insecure about singing in public despite having a beautiful voice. During our session, Kat discovered that whilst she was overly encouraged in all her artistic endeavours, her singing was never acknowledged by her family let alone praised. Without her being aware of it on a conscious level, this lack of acknowledgement had led to years of insecurities as an adult. We were able to assist Kat in healing those experiences through Hypnosis and empowering her to sing in public with confidence.

Kat says:

“Both times I saw Neeta, she took me back to places where I was surprised to find myself, and helped me make missing links to what was happening in my current life (due to past key moments that somehow shifted my beliefs). I didn’t even realise those things were affecting me. Knowing this allowed me to take action and allow some healing to take place.”

2. Nane

Then there was Nane who came to us as Pro Bono client. Nane had spent thousands of pounds calling Psychic hotlines, searching for answers as to why her life wasn’t where she wanted it to be.  Because of this, she had to sell her home and was struggling financially. We were able to help Nane overcome the unresolved pain she experienced as a child. She discovered that on a subconscious level, she had been carrying around the pain, sadness and fear she felt as a child of not being heard and not being stood up for. This resulted in many self-sabotaging behaviours that Nane was still engaging in well into her late 40s!

Following two lengthy sessions via Skype, Nane reported that she had made more progress with 2 sessions of Hypnotherapy than she had in 20 years of conventional therapy. She had a renewed love of life and had repaired broken relationships with family. She was dating again; the sale of her house had gone through and for the first time in a long time she was feeling hopeful about the future. In fact, her third session with us was just to tell us that she didn’t actually have any issues to discuss!

3. Jennani

Jennani contacted us during the breakdown of her 10-year marriage. Her husband was leaving her weeks after the birth of their first child. Jennani was desperate to save her marriage despite it not being a happy one. After just one session, Jennani says:

“Hypnotherapy made me able to see my underlying problem that I had for years but never thought about it. I cared way too much about others but I was scared to show my emotions to them. I also forgot to love me first. Now I realize that I have to love myself first in order to be able to give love to others. It has changed my attitude towards life and people I love!”

4. Ozlem

Ozlem booked a session with us after suffering with intense and unbearable period pain. For twenty years, Ozlem had come to believe that this pain was normal and accepted that it would be part of her life forever.

Ozlem came to see us because she was now at the stage where two weeks out of every month was consumed by pain. Ozlem was unable to leave the house and found herself in a state of constant pain and agitation resulting in social isolation.

During our first session with Ozlem we were able to determine that her physical pain stemmed from the childhood burden of having to be the carer of a younger sibling while her parents worked. On a conscious level, Ozlem was completely unaware how much this responsibility had affected her physically.

We helped Ozlem face these emotions, explore them and then release them… ultimately, resolving the pain associated with them.

 Ozlem says:

“I had terrible period pain and it was affecting all of my life. The pain was too strong and I was feeling tired, moody and lazy.

But now, this period term I didn’t feel the pain too much . On my third day l did yoga for 1 hour 15 mins and I did a run for 30 mins… that’s what l want …  I am going to gym 2-3 hours then meeting with my friends , living the day fully and don’t get tired easily like l used to be.

That was an amazing experience, it’s working on me very well.. I am reaching my goals..”

 If you’re ready to turn your pain into power, contact us for a free consultation at info@regencyhypnotherapy.com or call FREE on 0800 246 1017.

Appointments available via Skype, WhatsApp video or at 1 Harley Street, London.

visit http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com for more information.

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The time for change has come (no really, I’m serious this time).

Ok, I’m just going to put it out there. Yes, I’ve been here before.

This is clearly not the first time I’ve vowed to turn my life around, to reach my full potential, to exercise that belly fat away, to stop eating crap, to meditate… yeah, you get the picture. Nope, definitely not the first time I’ve been here.

So what’s so different about now I hear you ask?

Well, during my little break away from blogging I’ve managed to set up and run a pretty successful little Hypnotherapy Practice in Harley Street. (I know, I can be impressive at times).

I was updating my website today and adding my most recent reviews and it just dawned on me. Holy shit! I’ve actually helped people change their lives. I mean really change their lives! You should hear some of the pretty cool stuff these people (who are not related to me or paid by me) are saying about me!

Not only that. I had helped most of these people turn their lives around by spending just 90 minutes with them! I shit you not.

I realised today. I have the ‘power’. I know change can happen. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve made it happen – for others. So why the hell aren’t I doing it for myself?

The problem with me (well, one of many) is that I’ve spent my whole life preparing, getting ready – to change. I am a self-help book junkie. I’m literally reading 3 books at a time because I don’t find the answer/ the secret in the first few pages so I get impatient and I’m onto the next book… searching, always searching for that elusive key to unlocking the big mystery on HOW to change my life.

But I know what the secret is. I have the answer (more of that later).

I’ve made a promise to myself today. Today is the day for change.

As I sit here at 1am writing this blog, eating the last Wispa bar in the house with my Green Tea and Ribena… I know that I am FULLY fed up of being me. Of making bullshit promises to myself. Of telling myself “tomorrow I’ll stop/ start”.  Sick. To. Death. Of. It.

I’ve had this uneasy feeling all day. I know that today is the last day for a long while that I’m going to let myself be so disrespectful to myself. So I’ve literally eaten every piece of chocolate in the house (full disclosure: 2 Wispa Bars and 1 chocolate mini roll). I’ve sat here and watched shit on TV all day, like a slob, with my laptop resting on my round inflamed belly. Because this is the last day I’m doing this to myself. For real.

WHY?

Through my work with clients I’ve realised that the most important part of change is having a good enough WHY. If you don’t know why you’re doing it or you’re why isn’t good enough – you may as well sit back down and continue bullshitting yourself. Your WHY has to be strong enough to get you off your arse and moving. To stay motivated. To fight against the old you.

So here’s my WHY:

1. I’m 39 years old and I basically have possibly 3-4 more summers where I could legit get away with wearing a crop top (just once please God). Other than my bloated/fat belly, I’m pretty slim everywhere else. My parents good genes mean I still get mistaken for being in my late 20’s. This isn’t a pipe dream people. I could do it. J-LO rocks it so why the hell not eh?

2. I want to have kids (yeah, I know it’s a little late in the day but Amal Clooney is my age and she’s having twins!). I want a healthy happy baby but bearing in mind my crop top dreams, I gotta get fit so I can bounce back with ease (just like a celeb. LOL)

3. I’m going to a friends wedding at the end of May in France. I want to be at my best (or close to my best). I have time to make a dent and rock a Sophia Vergara style dress. When will I ever have the opportunity to do this again? I want to seize it. To enjoy the moment and enjoy being me.

4. I want to prove to myself what I believe in so strongly. That if you change your thoughts, you can quite literally change your world. I know I have the ‘power’, I’ve seen it working… it’s time to stop studying and time to start doing.

I’ll be back to talk more about HOW I’m going to achieve my WHY shortly… but for now, I need to eat my dinner (yeah, I know it’s 1am – I told you today was my last day of bad habits) and get me to bed for my 7am start.

Hold me accountable people. Seriously. Call me up on bullshit. I need you… and if your time has come. Join me for the ride… good things are heading our way.

If you could change your life in 90 minutes, would you?

In as little as 90 minutes we can help you overcome life long blocks that have been holding you back.

Our client last week attended with a range of issues which included wanting to be more productive, weight control and feeling better about herself.

Within days she is already feeling the benefits of the session and these feelings will continue to grow.

Book your session today! Appointments available via Skype or at Harley Street.

 

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Why wait ’til 1st January to change?

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It’s official, the year is coming to a end… the Christmas adverts have already started appearing on tv, stores have started stocking everything Christmas related and it’s freezing cold outside! Yep, there’s no escaping the fact that 2016 is on its way out.

This time of year can often be a depressing. You look back over the last 11 months and realise you didn’t accomplish a number of the goals you set out. You’re a year older and you’re heading towards another year of possibly much of the sameness.

No doubt once you’ve digested your Christmas dinner and tired of playing with your new gifts, you’ll start to wonder what lies ahead of you in the coming year.

Will you finally shift those extra pounds?

Will you quit smoking?

Will you be more proactive?

Will you be more confident?

Will you finally overcome your anxiety?

Will you stop procrastinating and start achieving some of your goals?

January 1st is an important date. It signifies all things new. A new year, a new start and a new you! But why wait until January?

Why not start working on these goals now? Imagine if you’re already on your way to losing weight or have quit smoking? You can head towards the new year with a confidence you’ve not had before. A confidence of knowing that this time you’re going to make it because you’ve ahead of the game.

For November only, we’re offering 50% off Skype Hypnotherapy. So wherever you are in the world, you can have a one to one session with a Harley Street Hypnotherapist from the comfort of your own home.

Sessions are booking up fast so call us FREE on 0800 246 1017 to book yours today.

For more information, visit http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com

Daily motivation: trade your expectations for appreciation

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A simple life hack to being happier is to trade your expectations for appreciation. When you expect nothing, you can’t be disappointed. View every encounter with gratitude.

If someone turns up late to meet you, rather than being upset that they’re late. Be grateful that they made it!

#youronlylimitisyou

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50% off Skype Hypnotherapy sessions

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If you’ve decided it’s time you want to change your thoughts, feelings and behaviours. Contact us at http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com for 50% off your first session.

We offer Skype sessions 7 days a week at a time that suits you, with  a Harley Street Hypnotherapist.

Call us FREE on 0800 246 1017 for a no obligation consultation.

Don’t be a prisoner to your own thoughts, your only limit is you!

For a limited time only, you can receive 50% off the following treatments:

  • Anger
  • Anxiety
  • Binge Eating
  • Blushing
  • Comfort eating
  • Confidence
  • Depression
  • Eating disorders
  • Exam nerves
  • Fears
  • Fear of flying
  • Grief
  • Guilt
  • Habits
  • Hair pulling
  • Hypnobirthing
  • Insomnia
  • IBS
  • Loneliness
  • Memory improvement
  • Nail biting
  • Pain relief
  • Panic Attacks
  • Performance anxiety
  • Phobias
  • Presentations
  • Public speaking
  • Rejection
  • Self-esteem
  • Self-love
  • Stop smoking
  • Stammering
  • Stuttering
  • Tinnitus
  • Weight issues

Don’t overthink your next step, give us a call and find out how we can help you!

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How I failed my 100 day challenge… but still changed my life!

Ok, so I’ve been in hiding for a while now but it’s time to come clean.

You may recall my (now hilarious) post back in January 2016 when I proudly (and publicly, well… on WordPress) declared that I was starting a 100 day challenge to change my life.

To be fair to myself, I think I managed about 40 or so days which for me is pretty fantastic for me but 100 days? Not even close.

I can’t say for sure what went wrong, but somehow, as usual … life got in the way. I got bogged down with the same old shit and made the same old broken promises.

I was going to spend a few more paragraphs beating myself up about this epic failure but I’ve cried two tears in a bucket, so fuck it.

Time to move on.

So what the hell have I been up to since January and how has my life actually changed?

Those of you who were kind enough to offer me words of encouragement when I started my ambitious challenge will be pleased to know that I haven’t spent all of those months watching everything and anything on TV. But I must confess, I did get through every season of the Sopranos and Six Feet Under… and just a few others that I seemed to have missed when they originally aired back in the day. But aside from that, I have been productive!

I qualified as a clinical Hypnotherapist and along with some colleagues have launched Regency Hypnotherapy. We have offices in Harley Street and we’re now officially open for business.

In addition to that, through my training I finally feel like I’m in a good place. My biggest lesson for this year is to view any kind of negative behaviour as coming from a place of insecurity. When you see the world that way, the world seems to be a lot less hostile. I will explain more about this in a future post.

For now, I just want to say that “I’m back!” and to thank you all sincerely for taking the time out to follow me and to offer your words of support and encouragement. Each and every one of them are greatly appreciated.

And if I could just ask for one more huge favour?! Please spread the word about Regency Hypnotherapy and drop by and say hi at http://www.regencyhypnotherapy.com if you get a spare second!

Love and blessings, the Happy Soul Hub xx

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Daily motivation: How to feel more abundant!

If you, like me, sometimes struggle with feeling ‘abundant’. Try this great little exercise I came across:

Put £100 in your pocket, or write yourself a cheque for X amount and carry it around with you everywhere you go.

As you go about your daily activities, look at all the things the money in your pocket could buy and just say to yourself “I can have it”.

I tried this yesterday whilst I drove into central London and I have to say, I felt pretty damn good! I had a cheque for £100,000 in my pocket so it was fun sitting in traffic looking at all the cars I CAN have… it also made me realise that there’s a lot that I don’t want or need either.

Give it a go and let me know how you get on. You’ll probably notice that you feel a whole lot happier by the time you reach your destination. And remember, like reflects like so if you’re feeling abundant, you’re reflecting/ attracting abundance!

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Struggling with visualisation?

It’s no secret (to anyone who has read my posts) that I’ve been struggling a little with the whole visualisation part of my 100 day challenge! This is despite the fact that I’m already a quarter of the way into the challenge.  I decided today that it was time to get some more help and the first place I looked was YouTube!

There are dozens of visualisation videos out there but a video by Bob Proctor resonated with me so this is the one I’ll be sticking to for the next few weeks!

The video below is 21 minutes and 54 seconds long and it’s more than worth taking the time out to listen to it.  I sat on the tube this morning, put my head phones on, pressed play and closed my eyes. It seemed like only minutes had passed and it was already time to get off at my stop. I didn’t notice or feel anyone around me – quite an amazing feat during rush hour in London town!

I felt calm and deeply relaxed. I even felt like at one point I had massive smile on my face. Proctor is good! He uses subtle hypnosis to get you to relax but the magic for me is in the way he guides you to visualise ‘abundance’ – whatever your definition of abundance is

I commit to listening to this video at least once a day for the next 21 days. I also think it’s time I exercised my visualising muscles a little more. Yes, I have big goals as part of my 100 day challenge but I also need to work on the small stuff happening. Visualising that perfect parking spot, or the tube waiting for me as soon as I get to the platform… you know, the little things in life that make a big difference. I will of course keep y’all updated on my progress.

So, if you want an abundant future… give this video a go too and as always, I’d love to hear how you get along!