11 new Law of Attraction tools to manifesting a better life (part 1)

There’s so much information out there on the law of attraction yet thousands of people still struggle with manifesting their true desires.

If you’re interested in the law of attraction, you’ve probably come across the work of Esther Hicks and the teachings of Abraham Hicks. Whatever you think about Esther (it took me a while to get my head around it), she seems to talk a lot of sense.

I’ve recently finished the bestselling book Ask and it is Given; learning to manifest the law of attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks and thought I’d share some of the insights I learned to help you (and me) on our manifesting journey!

The quotes below are some of the most useful I found in the book:

  1. In the same way that sculptors mold clay into the creation that pleases them, you create by molding Energy. You mold it through your power of focus – by thinking about things, remembering things, and imaging things. You focus the Energy when you speak, when you write, when you listen, when you are silent, when you remember, and when you imagine – you focus it through the projection of thought.
    I have a tendency to think and talk about the past A LOT! It’s no wonder I never feel like I’m moving forward!
  2. As long as you are more aware of what you do not want regarding this situation, what you do want cannot come to you. In other other words, if you are predominately thinking about your beautiful new car, then it is steadily making it’s way to you, but if you are predominately thinking about your undependable current car, your dependable new car cannot move toward you.
    Yep, guilty again! I have to admit I spend a lot of time thinking about what I don’t want to happen in life. I don’t want people to let me down, I don’t want to get ill, I don’t want bad things to happen etc! This is a major lesson for me!
  3. If you are thinking about something that you have been wanting for a long time and you are imagining that it is happening, then your emotion would be one of anticipation or eagerness.This is important to remember. I have done a few manifestation experiments in the past and the benefit of doing an ‘experiment’ is that you’re eager to see the outcome of what you’ve manifested. I forget this in my daily life and manifestation practices and after a few days, I start noticing everything that hasn’t turned up!
  4. Your mood is always showing you a good representation of what you are inviting into your experience. Your mood, or your general feeling about something, is a clear indication of your practiced vibration.I grew up being called ‘moody’ by my 4 siblings… it explains a lot! Time to get happy!
  5. Once you expect something, it will come.Yes!!!
  6. You have the ability to direct your own thoughts; you have the option of observing things as they are, or of imagining them as you want them to be – and whichever option you choose, whether you are imaging or observing, is equally powerful. You have the option of remembering something as it actually occurred or imaging it as you would prefer. You have the option of remembering something that pleased you or remembering something that did not please you. You have the option of anticipating something you want or anticipating something you do not want. In every case your thoughts produce a vibration within you that equals your point of attraction, and then circumstances and events line up to match the vibration that you have offered.
    Considering I spend a lot of time in the past, if I’m going to go down memory lane I choose to just focus on the good memories!
  7. It is not your job to make something happen – Universal Forces are in place for all of that. Your work is to simply determine what you want.Big lesson for me. It sounds really stupid but when I do visualisations I struggle to think about what I want. I’ve become so used to thinking small that I find it hard (unbelievable) to think on a grand scale. But I truly believe in the law of attraction so it’s time to be specific with my desires!
  8.  If you have the ability to imagine it, or even to think about it, this Universe has the ability and the resources to deliver it fully unto you.Well exactly that, time to start thinking big!
  9.  The greatest gift you could ever give to another is your own happiness, for when you are in a state of joy, happiness, or appreciation, you are fully connected to the Stream of pure, positive Source Energy that is truly who you are. And when you are in that state of connection, anything or anyone that you are holding as your object of attention benefits from your attention.I am responsible for the energy I bring to every interaction. Time to bring happiness not moodiness (this is going to be a tough one. lol)!
  10.  When you expect something, it is on the way. When you believe something, it is on the way. When you fear something, it is on the way.
    Time to move from fear into positive expectation.
  11. If you are not expecting it, you are not allowing it.

This goes with point 7. If I’m not dreaming big, I’m not expecting or allowing big life           changes to happen!

There are so many pearls of wisdom in Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires (Law of Attraction) and I’ll be talking more about these in my next post. But if you want to check them out for yourself, check out the book (you will not be disappointed!).

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Why minding your own business is good for your health

We’ve recently come across the work of author Byron Katie who shares this remarkably simple yet effective tool on how to be free of anxiety and tension. It’s so simple you’ll be wondering why you haven’t been doing it all this time!

 We’ll leave Katie (as everyone calls her) to explain it in her own words:

 “I can find only three kinds of business in the universe:

 1. Mine

2. Yours

3. Gods  (anything that’s out of my control, your control and everyone else’s control – that’s God’s business).

Much of our stress comes from mentally living out of our own business. When I think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself” – I am in your business.

When I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die – I am in God’s business.

 If I am mentally in your business or in God’s business, the effect is separation.

 If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own. I am separate from myself,  wondering why my life doesn’t work.

To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business. Let me work with that before I try to solve your problems for you.

If you understand the three kinds of business enough to stay in your own business, it could free your life in a way that you can’t even imagine.

 The next time you’re feeling stress or discomfort, ask yourself whose business you’re mentally in, and you may burst out laughing! The question can bring you back to yourself. And you may come to see that you’ve never really been present, that you’ve mentally been living in other people’s.

For more information about Byron Katie’s  visit  ‘the Work’ visit http://thework.com/en/do-work#jyn  

Daily motivation: Marathon man

Today’s daily motivation is a special shout out to a remarkable man on his 105th Birthday! Happy Birthday Mr Fauja Singh, marathon man!

The next time you feel frustrated by the limitations of your body, remember that Mr Singh couldn’t walk until he was 5 years old. Due to weakness and pain in his legs, he was only able to walk the distance of a mile by the age of 15. He went on to run his first 26 mile marathon at the age of 89 and retired from competitive running only 3 years ago, at the age of 102.

Know that you can do anything you set your mind to. After running a 20km (12.4 miles) charity event , Mr Singh mistakenly thought he had run 20 miles and signed up for a marathon believing he only had to run a further 6 miles. He in fact had to run more than double the distance.

He only realised his mistake 3 months before the marathon and then trained every Sunday for 12 Sundays. He turned up to his first training session in a 3 piece suit and trainers – and no change of clothes!

The secret to Mr Singh’s health? Restricting his food intake. His advice is the older you get, the less you eat, the better it is for you.

Whatever your secret, we salute you Mr Singh and we’re inspired by you!

 

Daily motivation: How to feel more abundant!

If you, like me, sometimes struggle with feeling ‘abundant’. Try this great little exercise I came across:

Put £100 in your pocket, or write yourself a cheque for X amount and carry it around with you everywhere you go.

As you go about your daily activities, look at all the things the money in your pocket could buy and just say to yourself “I can have it”.

I tried this yesterday whilst I drove into central London and I have to say, I felt pretty damn good! I had a cheque for £100,000 in my pocket so it was fun sitting in traffic looking at all the cars I CAN have… it also made me realise that there’s a lot that I don’t want or need either.

Give it a go and let me know how you get on. You’ll probably notice that you feel a whole lot happier by the time you reach your destination. And remember, like reflects like so if you’re feeling abundant, you’re reflecting/ attracting abundance!

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Stand behind what you believe

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I fucked up at work yesterday. Or, should I say ‘I think I fucked up at work yesterday’.

You know that feeling you get when you think you’ve proper messed something up? That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? The sudden sweaty palms and rapid heartbeat? When the panic sets in and you frantically try and retrace everything you did that got you to this point? Then you start questioning yourself and worse still, doubting yourself.

Yep, I had one of these ‘episodes’ yesterday. I won’t bore you with the details but in a nutshell, I produced a report for a client and let’s just say that she was less than happy with it. She decided to express this to me by basically interrogating me about my skills and qualifications and claiming that I had ruined her life and her business. Did I mention that she was a moron and a drama queen?

Now, this wasn’t quite the response I had envisioned when I hit the ‘send’ button a few hours earlier. So I was a little taken aback and defended myself as best as I could. But after I put the phone down, I must confess – I was rattled. My first and immediate reaction was to read through my work again. Was she right? Had I been unprofessional? Had I really ruined her life? (Ok, I didn’t actually question that but you get what I’m saying!).

All of a sudden, words and paragraphs that I thought were harmless when I wrote them suddenly screamed out at me. Should I really have written that? Does she have a point? Did I overstep the mark?

After re-reading and questioning every paragraph of my 11 page report, I left work feeling pretty crappy. Fortunately though, I had the good sense to call my husband and I couldn’t have scripted a better response from him!

My husband reminded me of what I’d written on all of the mirrors in our house a few days earlier, when I wrote the post– ‘I am good enough’. He told me that I was good enough, that I should know that I am and that I shouldn’t let this woman make me doubt that. In just a few seconds, with a few simple words – he managed to cut right through all the bullshit and get to the heart of what had upset me. And then to add to that, just by reminding me of those four little words, he managed to make me feel so much better! Yeah, I know – he’s got skills!

You see, anytime I make even a minor error at work I go into panic stations. The first thing I do is doubt myself. The second thing I do is let the feelings of the imposter syndrome take hold. ‘Oh my god, they’re going to find out that I’m actually really shit at this job after all’ or ‘they’re going to find out how thick I really am’. These are my ‘go to’ thoughts despite the fact that I’ve been doing this job for eight years!!!! And despite the fact that I more than competent at it. For some reason though, some part of me is always in fear that I’m not good enough to be where I am right now – and that I’ll be found out. The cruel joke of all of this is that I’m not even in a high flying job! LOL

Despite my husband’s wise words, as is standard procedure with anything in my life. I needed to bounce this off my best friend too so I called my sister. I went through the whole scenario again with her and she listened patiently. She then said the second wisest thing I heard that day. She told me that a Manager had once said to her “you need to be able to stand behind whatever you produce and believe in it. Every time you give advice or produce a document, you not only need to be able to fully understand it yourself. You also need to believe in whatever it is so you can stand behind it!”

Say what?

My sister explained that my apparent ‘fuck up’ wasn’t a processing error, it wasn’t like I pushed the wrong button and everything went to shit. My ‘fuck up’ was actually something I spent days thinking about and writing. Something I investigated, pondered and then went on to write an 11 page report about. Everything I put into that report at the time I wrote it was something I considered relevant. “So stand by your beliefs”. She said. “It doesn’t matter if one person in the world doesn’t like it. So what?! If you can stand behind what you wrote, because you obviously wrote it for a reason – then who cares if she doesn’t like it or if she complains? That’s just one person’s opinion. It doesn’t matter if you get called up on it either – as long as you can stand by your beliefs”.

She ended her little sermon with “as long as you know why you wrote what you wrote, why you did what you did, then that’s all that matters”. Jesus! When did this 30 year old kid get so wise?

Daily motivation: Pick your hard!

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There’s no denying it, life is hard.

It’s hard being overweight.
It’s hard going to the gym.
It’s hard having no money.
It’s hard going to a job you hate.
It’s hard being sad all the time.
It’s hard to think positive.
It’s hard to be on your own.
It’s hard meeting new people.

Yep, life is hard. Or as hard as you make it.

But what’s the alternative?

You find it hard living with the shape you’ve let your body become. But you find it hard motivating yourself to go the gym too. Pick your hard – because either way, you’re in a struggle, you’re fighting a battle, you’re going against yourself.

But which battle is worth fighting? Is it the fight you have in your mind, hating your body. Or the fight you have in your mind talking yourself into exercising?

PICK YOUR HARD.

Daily motivation: Select your thoughts

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If you truly believe in the power of the mind and the great things we can accomplish just by changing our thoughts… how long do you spend each day selecting your thoughts? How much time do you spend mentally planning your day each day?

If you, like me truly believe – then shouldn’t this be the most important thing we do each and every day? Take time to select our thoughts and plan our day? How much time do we actually dedicate to this practice? By not doing this, do we really actually believe?

Ever tried it? Does it work? Lets find out…

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Day 3 of the 100 day challenge

So, I’ve been struggling with this whole visualisation part of my 100 day challenge. The 5 minute journal is something I’m really enjoying, the meditation is something I think I’ll come to enjoy but the visualisation thing is proving to be quite a challenge!

For the first two days, I spent about 5 minutes a day just imagining myself in a nice house, having a few nice things but it didn’t seem a) real or b) focussed. I spent most of Day 3 dreading the visualisation and trying to think of ways I could make it feel more real and focussed. And then it hit me – a vision board!!!

I did a quick search of Google images and found some pictures that I thought would represent my dreams for the next 100 days. Then off I went to make my vision board.

Turns out this wasn’t as easy as I had first thought. You can obviously tell by the design and layout of my blog (and this vision board) that I’m not tech savvy. But how the hell do you stick a bunch of images together digitally and quickly? Enter Picasa!!!! My new favourite toy. There are of course other ways you can create vision board such as these but Picasa is the one for me!

So, after playing around with this for an hour or so (yes, it took me that long) I created this here vision board:

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But what does it all mean? Allow me to explain. Over the next 97 days, I intend to focus on this vision board and visualise:

1. The Happy Soul Hub becoming a successful blog
2. Getting pregnant (I’m not trying for a baby yet but I’m approaching 38 and my body clock is ticking loud and hard. I don’t necessarily feel ready to have a baby just yet… I mean if Mother Nature allowed it I’d probably wait another 10 years but they say you’re never ready, so this is the year!)
3. Hawaii – I have dreamed of going to Hawaii for as long as I can remember. I’m going to visualise this happening. That I go in style, staying at the best hotel and not worrying about my spending money.
4. Making more money! For now, I’m going to visualise earning an extra £2,000 a month. Not sure how this is going to happen but I’m going to focus on seeing my bank statements increase by that sum every month.
5. Buying a flat to rent. There are some new flats being built close to my house, I’d like to buy one of these flats which is something I’m nowhere near doing right now. But hey, might as well visualise it!
6. Becoming a successful Harley Street Hypnotherapist. I’m currently training to be a Hypnotherapist and this is something I’d really love to pursue. If you’re going to dream, might as well dream big so Harley Street is it!
7. Being lucky! For the next 97 days, I’m going to visualise that luck is on my side.
8. Doing up my house. I moved into my new house a year ago and I haven’t been able to do much with it. I’m going to visualise my home becoming my perfect living environment

Right, that should keep me occupied for more than 5 minutes a day! I’m planning on looking at my vision board every morning whilst I’m on my way to work and slowly moving around each picture, visualising having each of these things.

I read somewhere that in order for visualisation / the Law of Attraction to work you have to get the feeling of already having what you want. So, if I want a new handbag I have to imagine how I’d feel having that new handbag. As we know, whenever you want something new, a few days after you have it you feel as if you’d had it all along.. that’s the feeling I need to create when I’m looking at my vision board.

Here goes…