Daily motivation: Marathon man

Today’s daily motivation is a special shout out to a remarkable man on his 105th Birthday! Happy Birthday Mr Fauja Singh, marathon man!

The next time you feel frustrated by the limitations of your body, remember that Mr Singh couldn’t walk until he was 5 years old. Due to weakness and pain in his legs, he was only able to walk the distance of a mile by the age of 15. He went on to run his first 26 mile marathon at the age of 89 and retired from competitive running only 3 years ago, at the age of 102.

Know that you can do anything you set your mind to. After running a 20km (12.4 miles) charity event , Mr Singh mistakenly thought he had run 20 miles and signed up for a marathon believing he only had to run a further 6 miles. He in fact had to run more than double the distance.

He only realised his mistake 3 months before the marathon and then trained every Sunday for 12 Sundays. He turned up to his first training session in a 3 piece suit and trainers – and no change of clothes!

The secret to Mr Singh’s health? Restricting his food intake. His advice is the older you get, the less you eat, the better it is for you.

Whatever your secret, we salute you Mr Singh and we’re inspired by you!

 

Daily motivation: How to feel more abundant!

If you, like me, sometimes struggle with feeling ‘abundant’. Try this great little exercise I came across:

Put £100 in your pocket, or write yourself a cheque for X amount and carry it around with you everywhere you go.

As you go about your daily activities, look at all the things the money in your pocket could buy and just say to yourself “I can have it”.

I tried this yesterday whilst I drove into central London and I have to say, I felt pretty damn good! I had a cheque for £100,000 in my pocket so it was fun sitting in traffic looking at all the cars I CAN have… it also made me realise that there’s a lot that I don’t want or need either.

Give it a go and let me know how you get on. You’ll probably notice that you feel a whole lot happier by the time you reach your destination. And remember, like reflects like so if you’re feeling abundant, you’re reflecting/ attracting abundance!

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Daily motivation: Quit trying to change the bad

“If your goal is to get out of debt,
You’ll stay in debt forever.
Because whatever you think of, you attract.

You’ve got to start seeing what you want.

You don’t work on cold if you’re cold, you work on heat.
Cold is the absence of heat so you work on creating heat.

If you want good in your life,
quit trying to change the bad.
Quit trying to get rid of the bad.
Let it go.
Let it be part of the past.
Start to see the good that you desire.

Visualise it, see it as present in your mind.” ~ Bob Proctor

Change-Be-the-Change

 

 

Stand behind what you believe

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I fucked up at work yesterday. Or, should I say ‘I think I fucked up at work yesterday’.

You know that feeling you get when you think you’ve proper messed something up? That sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach? The sudden sweaty palms and rapid heartbeat? When the panic sets in and you frantically try and retrace everything you did that got you to this point? Then you start questioning yourself and worse still, doubting yourself.

Yep, I had one of these ‘episodes’ yesterday. I won’t bore you with the details but in a nutshell, I produced a report for a client and let’s just say that she was less than happy with it. She decided to express this to me by basically interrogating me about my skills and qualifications and claiming that I had ruined her life and her business. Did I mention that she was a moron and a drama queen?

Now, this wasn’t quite the response I had envisioned when I hit the ‘send’ button a few hours earlier. So I was a little taken aback and defended myself as best as I could. But after I put the phone down, I must confess – I was rattled. My first and immediate reaction was to read through my work again. Was she right? Had I been unprofessional? Had I really ruined her life? (Ok, I didn’t actually question that but you get what I’m saying!).

All of a sudden, words and paragraphs that I thought were harmless when I wrote them suddenly screamed out at me. Should I really have written that? Does she have a point? Did I overstep the mark?

After re-reading and questioning every paragraph of my 11 page report, I left work feeling pretty crappy. Fortunately though, I had the good sense to call my husband and I couldn’t have scripted a better response from him!

My husband reminded me of what I’d written on all of the mirrors in our house a few days earlier, when I wrote the post– ‘I am good enough’. He told me that I was good enough, that I should know that I am and that I shouldn’t let this woman make me doubt that. In just a few seconds, with a few simple words – he managed to cut right through all the bullshit and get to the heart of what had upset me. And then to add to that, just by reminding me of those four little words, he managed to make me feel so much better! Yeah, I know – he’s got skills!

You see, anytime I make even a minor error at work I go into panic stations. The first thing I do is doubt myself. The second thing I do is let the feelings of the imposter syndrome take hold. ‘Oh my god, they’re going to find out that I’m actually really shit at this job after all’ or ‘they’re going to find out how thick I really am’. These are my ‘go to’ thoughts despite the fact that I’ve been doing this job for eight years!!!! And despite the fact that I more than competent at it. For some reason though, some part of me is always in fear that I’m not good enough to be where I am right now – and that I’ll be found out. The cruel joke of all of this is that I’m not even in a high flying job! LOL

Despite my husband’s wise words, as is standard procedure with anything in my life. I needed to bounce this off my best friend too so I called my sister. I went through the whole scenario again with her and she listened patiently. She then said the second wisest thing I heard that day. She told me that a Manager had once said to her “you need to be able to stand behind whatever you produce and believe in it. Every time you give advice or produce a document, you not only need to be able to fully understand it yourself. You also need to believe in whatever it is so you can stand behind it!”

Say what?

My sister explained that my apparent ‘fuck up’ wasn’t a processing error, it wasn’t like I pushed the wrong button and everything went to shit. My ‘fuck up’ was actually something I spent days thinking about and writing. Something I investigated, pondered and then went on to write an 11 page report about. Everything I put into that report at the time I wrote it was something I considered relevant. “So stand by your beliefs”. She said. “It doesn’t matter if one person in the world doesn’t like it. So what?! If you can stand behind what you wrote, because you obviously wrote it for a reason – then who cares if she doesn’t like it or if she complains? That’s just one person’s opinion. It doesn’t matter if you get called up on it either – as long as you can stand by your beliefs”.

She ended her little sermon with “as long as you know why you wrote what you wrote, why you did what you did, then that’s all that matters”. Jesus! When did this 30 year old kid get so wise?

Why Valentine’s day is all about ME!

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As part of this post, I thought I’d do some research about the origins of Valentine’s day … but then I got bored and gave up! What does it matter anyway? Valentine’s day as we now know it, is all about; roses, chocolates, cards and romantic meals.

It’s the one day of the year that those of us who have persevered through the ups and downs of a relationship, can feel that it’s all been worthwhile… because there’s a possibility we might receive a card or roses or chocolates or even a free meal! If our love is like the stuff you see in movies, we might even get one or more of these gifts or all of them together! Now that’s a love that can’t be tested!

Today is also the one day of the year that it’s assumed by most that anyone who is single will feel like shit and long to be in a relationship!

Whatever the reality of these situations are, is unimportant. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, is irrelevant. Because, today is ALL about love – and showing the person you love the most in the world, just how much they mean to you… and single or not, we all have that person in our lives! Because that person is YOU!

If today you secretly hope that your loved one will go to great lengths to show you how much they love you. Or you wish you had that special someone in your life. Ask yourself instead, what are you doing to show yourself how much you love you?

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Take five minutes out and grab a piece of paper and jot down:

  • 5 of your accomplishments over the last year, however small.
  • 5 things you’ve done to help others over the years.
  • 5 compliments you’d give yourself.
  • 5 parts of your personality that you think are pretty damn cool.
  • 5 things you like about your body.

Take time to reflect upon your achievements and congratulate yourself on the person you’ve become and the person you’re trying to be. Appreciate who you are and how far you’ve come, through all of the tough times.

Once you’ve done this, do one thing to pamper yourself today. Dress up! Go further and treat yourself, however small that treat might be – be it a slice of cake, a new top or a new book you’ve been thinking about buying. Whatever you decide to do, do one thing today to show yourself how important you are.

And remember, a lot of what you see is an illusion. Yes, there are happy couples out there but that happiness doesn’t come without work. It takes hard work to make a relationship last, to stick it through the tough times, day in and day out. Just like it’s hard to be single – while everyone around you seems to be coupled up. It’s just a different kind of hard.

The important thing is not if you have someone to love or that someone loves you. The important thing is how much you love yourself. As the stylish Miss Carrie Bradshaw once said, “don’t forget to fall in love with yourself first…”.

If you’ve never been in love with yourself before, today is the perfect day to start.

Happy Valentine’s day to me… and of course, to you too. xx

 

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5 Law of Attraction hacks I’ve learnt from Susan Ferraro

So, who exactly is Susan Ferraro? Ermn, I have absolutely no idea!

I came across Susan on one of those suggested Facebook posts – you know the ones. They randomly appear in your newsfeed offering you the world. In this case, Susan was offering a short free course on the Law of Attraction (LOA) so I thought I’d check out her free videos.

Although I chose not to sign up for Susan’s paid course, I did find that she made some valuable points which I’ll share with you (adding my own take on them of course):

1. Like reflects like

Rather than the LOA being about ‘attracting’ what you want in your life, Susan flips this and suggests that the LOA is actually about reflecting what you want to attract. She uses the example of looking into a mirror. The only way you’re going to get your reflection to smile back at you is of course, if you’re smiling. It’s a simple change of words, reflect rather than attract but for some reason, it clicks with me.

2. Know what you want

This doesn’t have to be a long drawn out process. It’s a simple as a split second decision. It’s all about certainty. Susan gives the example of wanting new flooring and going to bed being sure that this is what she was going to get. She wakes the next morning to a burst water pipe resulting in damage to her carpet… and therefore, she’s left with no choice but to change her flooring. Susan got what she wanted, the how isn’t important (I’m not quite sure this particular example would be a good outcome for me. Burst pipes would likely send me over the edge!). Nonetheless, this got me thinking.

I’ve been thinking back to times when I’ve had similar experiences but for me it’s usually when I’m pissed off about something. It’s like something
flips in my brain and I think ‘enough is enough’ or ‘fuck you world’ and there and then, in a split second I make up mind that this is how things are going to be. Whenever I’ve had a thought like this, the things I’ve wanted have manifested.

Now the problem for me is that it takes a lot for me to get to this stage, like a lot. I’m a ‘go with the flow’ kinda gal and I generally don’t feel passionate about anything (unless it pisses me off)…  Hmm and I guess herein lies my problem?!I need to get my Hulk on more often. I need to get the feeling of ‘how fucking dare you?’ which results in my thinking being determined and focussed. I guess I need to work on using my powers for good.. but at least I’ve finally identified the feeling I need to create.

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**I need to be in a permanent state of being just on the verge of turning into the Hulk!

By the way, if anyone has got any ideas on how I can recreate this feeling without having to be pissed off first- please let me know!

3. Journal about what you want your life to look like

Any LOA student knows that visualisation is a key part of manifesting your dreams but for me personally, this is something I really struggle with. I just can’t conjure up pictures in my mind on demand. I have no idea why! Tell me to picture a cat, my mind will instead give me a blank screen – every time! 

Susan rescued me here! She doesn’t visualise so much either. Instead, she journals about how she wants her life to look! I love this idea! 

I’ve already started incorporating this way of visualisation in my 5 minute journal and I have to say, I really prefer the process of writing about what I want rather than sitting there trying to picture it. This for me is a keeper! 

4. Desperation is a turn off

Just like it is in any relationship, when you act desperate (even if it’s in your mind) it’s an immediate turn off. Apparently, the Universe is no different from any guy or girl. If you act desperate about what you want, the Universe aint interested! 

I guess this is what ‘they’ (the people in the know) mean about having faith. You have to decide on what you want, know that you’re going to get and trust that the Universe will deliver it. Basically, it’s like going to a bar in your best get up, knowing that you look hot and knowing that you’ll be pulling tonight… there’s no doubt in your mind that you’ll be approached! But if you’ve been sitting there for 2 hours and no one has even looked your way, you start doubting yourself and start feeling and looking a bit desperate- making the whole situation even worse. If you would’ve just held your cool, you would’ve realised that the type of people you want to attract hadn’t actually arrived at the bar yet. It is only 4pm after all! Catch my drift? Be cool my friends, be cool.

5. Just focus on the step in front of you

Don’t get caught up in the ‘how’s’. Just focus on the first step of the staircase, you can deal with the rest of the staircase as and when you get to it.

If you start looking at the whole grand picture of what you want out of life, it’s easy to get disheartened and convince yourself it’s not going to happen. Because, well… quite frankly you’re not seeing anything – not yet anyway! But that’s ok. These things take time.Focussing on just the step in front of you is one way around this. Trust that you have asked, so you will receive but forget about the big picture – it’s just one step at a time.